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Have I blown my chances of a new life?

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Miffed52 · 27/10/2024 08:41

I decided to apply for a job in another city about 5-8 years ago. I got shortlisted on the very day my mum had a hospital appointment and therefore I rearranged the interview date so I could be with her. Guess what? There was a tube, bus and rail strike where I live on the interview date! (This was before interviews became more commonplace on MS Teams). I rang to explain my predicament, but by then, they'd lost interest.
Well, my mum has never let me live it down and she'll say I've now been black-listed, as 6 months after, I applied for a similar job at the same place (NHS - clerical and admin) and my application wasn't successful 😣. My mum still brings it up with, "You'll never get a job now in that city. You've messed it up. They'll remember you for being flaky". I tell her I should be allowed to make mistakes and I'm sure by now they'll be a new set of people and have forgotten me by now? and this is how it goes 🤷. I feel so stuck.

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gbaxter · 27/10/2024 08:43

Tell your mum it's down to her that you missed it so the onus falls on her.

Life works in mysterious ways and happens how it should, just because it doesn't make sense now doesn't mean it won't in future.

Your mum sounds like she's bitter about it for her own sake but is taking it out on you and i'd tell her to find a hobby!

AnOldCynic · 27/10/2024 08:56

Does your mum not want you to move away to the other city? Why is she so belittling towards you?

No, you haven't blown it at all but I'd do some work on your relationship with your mum and set some boundaries.

BlastedPimples · 27/10/2024 09:16

Your mum is talking utter nonsense.

Ignore her.

Keep applying. Nothing to lose so go for it. Don't give up.

Ncocta · 27/10/2024 09:20

Keep applying - it’s probably not you but the sheer number of people applying for jobs these days. Yes your mum sounds so bitter - just tell her to stop commenting or stop telling her about it

Orchid135 · 27/10/2024 12:44

If it’s an nhs job shortlisters don’t get names, ages and all that to prevent discrimination. Therefore it’s very highly unlikely they’ve ‘remembered’ your application. As you say will be a whole new set of shortlisters/team.
Give yourself a break. Work on your application and good luck. Xxx

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