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How do you fit in 35 hours of work if you do all school runs?

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Hillrunning · 22/10/2024 22:02

I manage someone who doesn't appear to be doing anywhere near her 35 hours a week and have been advised to get her to confirm when she is completing thoes hours.

She does all school drop off and pick ups Tuesday to Friday and very often on Mondays too. She has also stated that her children have sports/activities 3 nights a week.

I just can't see how she has 35 hours spare to work with unless doing them at very unsociable hours. While she has a partner it's made very clear that he does not support and work out of the home 9 to 5.

It would be very useful to hear from others of thier patterns if they have similar demands please.

OP posts:
Single50something · 24/10/2024 17:57

I used to stat at 8 and finish at 6 with half hour break

Would start at 745 so could drop at school at 830 and be home 840. Would use lunchbreak to pick up from school.
But if she isn't meeting objectives you performance manage her. Does she realise she isn't? Maybe chat to her about how she can make her hours fit in etc eg by working late in the evening when children are in bed etc.

Ozanj · 24/10/2024 18:10

afrikat · 24/10/2024 15:51

I don't know how feasible this is, but depending on what hours she says she is working, is it possible for IT to check what hours her laptop is logged in? I read a thread on here where that happened to someone's husband and he was found to be working much fewer hours than he should have been. I do think it should be about productivity not necessarily hours worked but by the sound of it she's not productive so confirming the hours she's actually online for gives you a bit more evidence if needed

This only works for permanently online roles when you must be online 24-7. Otherwise it always falls over when the union then requests anonymised data for all employees in a similar role and employee ends up logged in longer. Remember people who are office based have the least screentime and are the least productive.

SweetSakura · 24/10/2024 18:13

Ozanj · 24/10/2024 18:10

This only works for permanently online roles when you must be online 24-7. Otherwise it always falls over when the union then requests anonymised data for all employees in a similar role and employee ends up logged in longer. Remember people who are office based have the least screentime and are the least productive.

Agreed, that's why it's better to go down the performance management route based on output surely rather than pick away at screen time.

I often print out chunks of guidance etc and read them away from the screen to rest my eyes. Or spend 20 mins or so plotting something through on paper. That's probably some of the most productive work i do! I could be on the screen but yakking away with a colleague about love island* for four hours

(*Unlikely as I have never watched love island but you get the point)

Treesandsheepeverywhere · 24/10/2024 18:15

MrsSunshine2b · 24/10/2024 01:15

Why would you be working from 6am to 10pm? Even if you take an hour for school drop off and don't work between your children finishing school at 3 until the other parent gets home at 6, that's still a 12 hour work day. And you've had 3 uninterrupted hours with your kids.

Gosh, I'm talking of those who say they start early to accommodate school stuff, then work late to make up for it.

Not everyone lives 5 minutes away, literally.....

So commute to do drop off, if driving to the school or put them on a bus that's a lot, especially in London.

Then same for pick-up, errands on the way back for some and then breakfast, load the dishwasher etc.

It's doable for some but if done properly where kids or work don't suffer, then it's a select few.

I've witnessed it but someone will be here to say they live 5 minutes from the bus stop so they're doing well.

mentallyilltotallychill · 24/10/2024 18:32

Im contacted 37h a week with a 10 year old (breakfast and afterschool clubs for late pick ups on office days but he walks himself to and from school wfh days, its 2 mins away) I have personal appointments 2xs a week during working hours and put it on my signature “apologies if you get an email out of regular working hours I do not intend for you to respond till your working hours”

I work a lot of late evenings like when my son is in bed to complete reports etc etc and plan my diary and meetings accordingly. My work output is the same as anyone elses doing the 9-5 but sometimes ill just be up till 11 when my son is in bed to make that happen.

My manager is aware of this and doesn’t mind when i do the hours as long as they’re done and im still keeping up with work and to partnership agencies make it really clear “my best availability is Wednesdays or Fridays” where i keep my diary clear for meetings and any emergency work things that crop up.

also when able, ill just smash out a 12h day like Tuesdays im in the office 8-8.

i have colleagues (and another manager) that condense their hours so they do the same amount of hours but just longer days for a non working day or a half day a week.

understand that is a big ramble.

IrritableBitchSyndrome · 24/10/2024 18:33

I drop off at school at 7.30 and pick up at 5.30 and work far more than my contracted 35 hours.

user1472151176 · 24/10/2024 18:42

I work unsociable hours to manage the school runs and activities. I work most evenings once the kids are in bed. I suppose it depends on the age of the children. Mine are less dependent on me so it's easier to be a bit more unsociable.

Fizbosshoes · 24/10/2024 18:46

@HoneyPie12
My work output is excellent. I'm a very high achiever. No one ever asks what I'm doing when. I give my work 1000% and am super loyal to them because they give me the flexibility to also be a mum. I also attend assembly, nativity, Xmas crafts when I can and just make that time back. I honestly cannot understand how her school runs local ones are affecting you so much. Poor woman needing to justify every minute- I would leave if you were my boss honestly.

Have you read OPs updates?

The reason she is being asked to verify her hours is because her output is low and she is not meeting targets, or is missing deadlines, and this impacts whole projects and other people's workload. And school runs were taking up 2 hours at a time, presumably means she is not available at hours where colleagues might need to speak to her.
Not because she is working flexible hours

WeNindow · 24/10/2024 19:24

I don't need to do school runs anymore but have colleagues who do. Here's what happens in my public sector organisation.

We work hybrid and full timers are in the office 2 days a week, part timers it's 1 day. If we don't come in on the office days we must have permission IN ADVANCE. Otherwise we risk being treated as absent from work.

We have cases allocated to us and then it's up to us how we manage our day/diaries, but we have a weekly diary visible to the whole team so we can see what blocks of work colleagues are doing at any given time. We need to be available for appointments, calls, consultations etc during core hours (even it's taking a call while doing the school pick up).
If someone is busy occasionally it would be fine to decline or miss meetings but would be unacceptable for someone to do this regularly and would be quickly pulled up and told to rearrange diaries.

But the biggest indicator of performance would be if someone was getting through the same amount of casework as others on the same grade/hours. This can be checked in casenotes and contacts and would quickly become a performance issue if there were big discrepancies

afrikat · 24/10/2024 19:41

Ozanj · 24/10/2024 18:10

This only works for permanently online roles when you must be online 24-7. Otherwise it always falls over when the union then requests anonymised data for all employees in a similar role and employee ends up logged in longer. Remember people who are office based have the least screentime and are the least productive.

Good point!

Tessabelle74 · 24/10/2024 19:58

I do all the school runs and work 9-3, that's 30 hours so she'd have to be working at home too and it doesn't sound like her husband would allow that (!!!)

Lordofthechai · 24/10/2024 21:36

Rasputin123 · 23/10/2024 19:23

Yes, all well and good in theory if you have the perfect angelic children 100% of the time. But I really doubt having more than one child in the house under 8. That they won’t be fighting, arguing, competing for mums undivided attention in whatever way works, wanting a drink, a snack, wanting a meal, a drink, to go to the park, have a neighbours child calling for them, trying to do something unsafe or that isn’t allowed in your etc etc. It’s different with children of Secondary School age but even they often want lifts, want to ask you something so with the best will in the world your attention still isn’t 100% on work after school.

I don't know anyone with secondary children who WFH and has childcare..... secondary age kids are no more distracting than your average co-worker in an office.

Hillrunning · 24/10/2024 22:19

HoneyPie12 · 24/10/2024 17:53

I start at 8, take a break at 8.40 to take my kids to school. Back at 8.55, work pretty much straight through untill 3 although I take small breaks to make a drink, pee, let the dog out etc. I pick my kids up from 3-3.30. Log back on, work untill about 4.30 - take a break or log off depending on what's left. I'm not sure how my day is any different than someone who works 9-5 but takes an hour for lunch?
My work output is excellent. I'm a very high achiever. No one ever asks what I'm doing when. I give my work 1000% and am super loyal to them because they give me the flexibility to also be a mum. I also attend assembly, nativity, Xmas crafts when I can and just make that time back. I honestly cannot understand how her school runs local ones are affecting you so much. Poor woman needing to justify every minute- I would leave if you were my boss honestly.

You are the opposite of her then. I have others like you in my team. They are an inspiration to work with because they showcase to employers that work does not need to be rigid.

OP posts:
DodoTired · 25/10/2024 09:55

Hillrunning · 23/10/2024 21:53

Interesting. I do think it is different because to the other examples you give I could simply remind them of thier contra3s hour and tell them they need to stop chatting in the mail room for an hour every day. I can't tell her she can't pick up her children from school. I can understand if her specific set up outlined (no wrap around care, no partner support etc) physically allows for 35 hours a week of work. Many lovely yposter have taken the time to type out reassuring and varied different ways it could work. Something she has not yet even able to do.

It it is also very helpful to hear how you are viewing my need for understanding. I've put off it being about hours for as long as I feel I could.

Sorry but why you can’t tell her that she has to work contract hours??
does she have formal agreement on flexible hours?
the fact she has no wraparound care is not your problem; she has to arrange it like everyone else. Generally she isn’t even entitled to pick children up from school if she’s working full time, you are being kind and generous allowing for that.

in all previous examples people enjoyed the perks of formal or informal flexi working because they delivered AND because they still made up contracted hours at different times of the day - she does neither.

she has to do both even if on formal flexible arrangement.

lilkitten · 26/10/2024 14:04

I run a business with my DP. He is there most of the time, but I only work 10-2 to fit in with the school runs. I do a couple of hours there on Saturday too, and the remaining hours I do from home across the week, in the evenings, to make it up to 35 hrs

BatshitIsTheOnlyExplanation · 26/10/2024 15:07

Hillrunning · 22/10/2024 22:19

Thank you all for the responses so far. To address some of the questions, Output is very low, many objectives missed, meetings missed or declined if they fall before 10 or after 2. Whole projects have suffered. No wrap around care. Children all under 8 years old.

Someone in my last company got fired for that. She was never available 2.30-6pm, despite being contracted for 37.5 hours.

DemocracyR · 27/10/2024 01:36

People like this are the ones who make the flexible working approach ‘unsuitable’ for a lot of companies, because people take the piss. Similar situation to you with one of my staff, when initially approached whether the 45 minutes she was doing before the school run, so starting early, was entirely productive (based on her role, she worked from a shared inbox with simple general enquiries, which are logged). She was doing zero and she immediately flipped when it was asked.

It became apparent soon after, when asked to pick up a task which she should be able to do, but hadn’t for a long time, that she was looking after one child from 1pm, after a 20 minute pick up, and the other from 3, after a 20 minute pick up. Taking a 15 minute break and hour lunchbreak. Other staff were working over their hours to compensate for her low output.

Treesandsheepeverywhere · 27/10/2024 03:57

DemocracyR · 27/10/2024 01:36

People like this are the ones who make the flexible working approach ‘unsuitable’ for a lot of companies, because people take the piss. Similar situation to you with one of my staff, when initially approached whether the 45 minutes she was doing before the school run, so starting early, was entirely productive (based on her role, she worked from a shared inbox with simple general enquiries, which are logged). She was doing zero and she immediately flipped when it was asked.

It became apparent soon after, when asked to pick up a task which she should be able to do, but hadn’t for a long time, that she was looking after one child from 1pm, after a 20 minute pick up, and the other from 3, after a 20 minute pick up. Taking a 15 minute break and hour lunchbreak. Other staff were working over their hours to compensate for her low output.

Totally!
The hour before school run when kids are getting ready isn't going to be productive work time, Neither are times after pick up, tea time or bath/bed time.

Posters saying pick/drop is 5 minutes away, come back and jump straight back to work in 10 minutes aren't being realistic.

Logging on isn't the same as being productively working.

Always a few who spoil it for everyone else.

angela1952 · 27/10/2024 08:15

Treesandsheepeverywhere · 27/10/2024 03:57

Totally!
The hour before school run when kids are getting ready isn't going to be productive work time, Neither are times after pick up, tea time or bath/bed time.

Posters saying pick/drop is 5 minutes away, come back and jump straight back to work in 10 minutes aren't being realistic.

Logging on isn't the same as being productively working.

Always a few who spoil it for everyone else.

Exactly. That's why my GC come to me at 7.00am for breakfast and I take them to school. That way my DD can do two hours proper work in the time before she'd otherwise be home and working after drop off. Two hours is a hefty proportion of the day.

If she only takes a short break at lunchtime she's done her day's work by the end of school (though she's very conscientious and will pick up anything urgent after that).
I struggled with having four children and a full-time job so used a childminder before and after school until they were older. I'd have loved to WFH but it just wasn't done then, and obviously not all roles can be done from home.

I really think your employee is taking the piss@Hillrunning

DodoTired · 27/10/2024 15:35

Treesandsheepeverywhere · 27/10/2024 03:57

Totally!
The hour before school run when kids are getting ready isn't going to be productive work time, Neither are times after pick up, tea time or bath/bed time.

Posters saying pick/drop is 5 minutes away, come back and jump straight back to work in 10 minutes aren't being realistic.

Logging on isn't the same as being productively working.

Always a few who spoil it for everyone else.

people have different jobs. I for example get a ton of emails so can easily spend half an hour or more them to start the day, and then mulling them over while In doing the school run/on the train.

ToNiceWithSpice · 27/10/2024 16:23

Treesandsheepeverywhere · 27/10/2024 03:57

Totally!
The hour before school run when kids are getting ready isn't going to be productive work time, Neither are times after pick up, tea time or bath/bed time.

Posters saying pick/drop is 5 minutes away, come back and jump straight back to work in 10 minutes aren't being realistic.

Logging on isn't the same as being productively working.

Always a few who spoil it for everyone else.

That depends on the job, I also have flexible working hours so it doesn't really matter how long the school run takes

I have a certain number of things I need to assess and authorise each day , it's easy to sign back in after 10 mins and get straight back to it

SweetSakura · 27/10/2024 17:34

Treesandsheepeverywhere · 27/10/2024 03:57

Totally!
The hour before school run when kids are getting ready isn't going to be productive work time, Neither are times after pick up, tea time or bath/bed time.

Posters saying pick/drop is 5 minutes away, come back and jump straight back to work in 10 minutes aren't being realistic.

Logging on isn't the same as being productively working.

Always a few who spoil it for everyone else.

Really? Depends on the job surely and how focussed the person is. I have always had a reputation for churning out a prodigious amount of work and working 9.30-2.30 (9.15-2.45 if traffic is clear) and the rest when the children are in bed /at clubs

I climbed the career ladder rapidly while working that pattern. I progressed past heaps of people working 9-5 far less productively

Treesandsheepeverywhere · 27/10/2024 18:38

Truth is not everyone can do it, yet everyone claims to, even the person OP is talking about.

Everyone thinks they're doing well and being more productive yet it's only a few that are disciplined enough.

Like I said, I lived with someone who would log on and do the bare minimum.

Nosleeptheo · 30/10/2024 08:14

My work week with 2 kids but only 1 at school.

7am start, nip out at 8.30 to do school run
8.45 back at work
Work till 3 (usually through lunch break) if at aftershock clubs I work till 4
Family time from then
7 I tend to put another 2 hours in more if deadlines are approaching

Weekends are my time

ScaryM0nster · 30/10/2024 13:44

Ozanj · 24/10/2024 18:10

This only works for permanently online roles when you must be online 24-7. Otherwise it always falls over when the union then requests anonymised data for all employees in a similar role and employee ends up logged in longer. Remember people who are office based have the least screentime and are the least productive.

Do you have references for this?

I’m not picking a fight, just genuinely interested as I hear this described in different ways.