Hello there everybody I have a question regarding my daughter and her father
My 7 year old is autistic and has adhd and learning difficulties but has recently expressed anxiety and anytime we mention it’s daddy’s half term or weekend she cries, and says things that are concerning (just not neglectful enough).
My ex refuses to see the disability, and says she’s well behaved and eats everything. I and school will say this is not true. So either a mask is up or she is terrified of him. I can’t see why she would eat and behave otherwise. She is very argumentative and only has about 10 sage foods, has voiced concerns that daddy cooks yucky meals and if she doesn’t eat that she has to wait till the next meal (sometimes korning so overnight) I worry that as this is common practice for those with neurotypical children, I don’t have a leg to stand on if I go to court with this. As he is feeding her but she is refusing. When she goes for half terms it’s usually a week- 3 weeks (summer) we split them all and he has fortnightly weekends. I am the custodial parent however and I see the effect going to his has.
she says she doesn’t want to go anymore, more on half terms, weekends don’t seem to have as much of an effect. We don’t have a court order in place and with her age and disability I am wondering if I would be able to say no to half terms but keep weekends the same. It isn’t doing her any good and her refusal is getting worse with age.
she has mentioned a few things like , daddy never does anything, never takes us anywhere, only cooks yucky food and let’s her stay up late.
this ruins the school week ahead and even more so with the long period of times she goes. With half terms she comes back, quiet, silent doesn’t talk and won’t stop eating and drinking for days.
i see no sign of neglect but I do see signs of disability neglect he doesn’t take it seriously and refuses to listen to me and ifnofes and says ‘I see nothing worn’ each time I mention a concern and threatens full custody every time.
but as she ages I see a decline and increase in her anxiety and behaviour as she gets older.
what can I do. We’ve done mediation twice for different reasons and they never stick. I can’t afford court or another mediator but I can’t let my child go on like this especially since she’s lacks concept and understanding. I want to just let him have weekends but take away half terms, maybe keeping birthdays and Christmas alternated every year so she has that experience with him.
if I do this can he do anything about it
will this end in court will he win?