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Nmcl40 · 24/09/2024 07:24

I started a new job very recently with a new team. Very different job. My boss has been very supportive but a few times he has picked on me with another colleague. I do give as good as I get which now he seems to have stopped. I can be ditsy and a bit clumsy at times so I guess that’s what they find funny or hilarious. I’m not sure I’m being over sensitive but I’ve made notes in case I do need to take it further. Recently both the colleagues have been extra nice and send me texts after an event working to ask how it went or ‘you done great today’. I’ve kept my responses very vague like simply ‘thank you and have a good weekend’ as I’m afraid to open up to them in case they think I can tolerate their behaviour again. I think they both know they have over stepped and hence why they are being nice. I was picked on at school and I think the comments had triggered me in some way. I don’t want to have a friendship with them I want to distance myself as much as I can even if they are somehow being nice. I have kept myself to being professional and polite with them. I’ve also had previous negative experience with work colleagues so I have my guard well up. Am I being an asshole?

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RechargeableGnu · 24/09/2024 12:50

I think it's always a good thing to remember that as much as you may get on with management, they are there to do a job.

From your example though, I would certainly be wary of someone who treated me like that.

Nmcl40 · 24/09/2024 13:14

I am all for having a joke and a laugh but the same joke over and over gets very boring to listen to and when made to be a laughing stock in front of people isn’t very nice. I’ve been wary of them both ever since even with their ‘nice’ messages but they seemed to have stopped since I told them I was pregnant also.

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inabubble3 · 27/09/2024 21:10

You’ve done the right thing 😁 yup document the things but don’t tell them. Hold onto it just in case. X

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