Should i quit

[Jorge14]

My mental health is seriously suffering and i have problems with my teenager, big problems. My job is quite stressful and i get a lot dumped on me that is out of my control. As far as money is concerned, we are fortunate that my husband has a job where he can pick up extra work. I feel like i need to leave and concentrate on my mental health and my family but i’m worried that my husband working more hours will take a toll on him and my job provides the security as he is self employed. I don't feel like i can make a rational decision because of how awful i feel. What seems right as an outsider looking in?

Hi OP what does ur husband say about you leaving? If hes ok with it and your teenager is really struggling ,(sounds like he needs you) I would quit. Perhapd you could return to work after a 6 months or a year out? Goodluck!

Depending on where you work, could you ask for a reduction in hours, either temporary or permanent? Move to a different role in the business? Look at any support networks the business has if it is a large organisation?
My experience was that it helped my mental health to have something else apart from the stress at home. It was almost a break from the situation to go to work. My situation was very hard at the time. I couldn't have done a full time job, but part time working in a less demanding role really helped me.
I think I would have been too consumed by the home situation without it.

Can you get signed off work with stress for a couple of weeks and reevaluate the situation?

What would happen if you mentally stepped back at work for a bit and employed a "work to rule" mindset for a bit?

You could request parental leave for a few weeks to see how you feel? Do you just have 1 child? If not you could take more time.

www.gov.uk/parental-leave/entitlement

I'd try not to make any big drastic decisions while you're feeling the way you are at the moment.
Can you go off sick? Apply for a block of parental leave? Ask to take a career break? Reduce your hours? Once you've off work you may be better able to make a permanent decision on the future.

Work provides structure, routine and another focus outside of the problems at home so I'd be concerned that losing that may make things worse. Also if your husband has to work more hours will the whole load of responsibility at home just fall on you as he won't be there to help?

I would not be happy if DH quit and assumed i would take on more work to fund your lost income. Find another job

Well we do discuss things funnily enough and it was his idea, everyone is different

Thanks for this ❤️ my problem has been ongoing for two years and I already took 2 months off a year ago, I don’t feel right doing it again, I feel it adds to my anxiety

I feel like this is probably the best option, it’s just a scary thought

Could you reduce your hours?

Thank you, I actually have a little freelancing job one day a week too - only until February but I think that will bring me a bit of a breather from being at home

I feel like this is probably the best option, it’s just a scary thought