Work dilemma

[TheRoseEagle]

A work colleague and myself became good friends in and out of work. After an incident that happened outside of work she became very distant. I reached out to her often but her texts and conversations were very cold so in the end I left her to it.
I find work very uncomfortable because we don’t have the same banter and she is like a different person. It is like speaking with a stranger and I find it all very uncomfortable.

Recently at work another colleague was so rude to me that I walked out. She made comments about other team members being unhappy with me. I have not been back to work since and have signed myself off sick with work anxiety.

I love my job but feel like I have no option but to leave.

would you be able to stay working in an environment like this or would it force you to leave and go elsewhere.

my friends and family tell me there will always be nasty people at work and I need to learn to deal with it. I’m sure I could learn to ignore nasty horrible work colleagues but I don’t know if it worth me going back to a place where it will never be the same with me and the old friend.

my dilemma is do I rise above it all and try to be strong or do I move on and have a fresh start.

this “incident”…. i suspect would cast a light on the situation if you elaborated

It seems like a lot of your colleagues aren’t happy with you op

What happened

What was the incident? That may help with why she is being the way she is.

What kind of "incident"?
Vagueness won't help anyone advise you properly. Currently you're making it sound like you're being bullied but you're only giving 20% of the story.

I think you need to explain, what was the incident and why are people unhappy with you?

So if I am reading this right there are 3 different individuals that seem to have an issue with you, one of them due to an unspecified "incident"?
I am sorry OP but the problem may not be your colleagues

It’s quite telling that your friends and family are telling you that you need to learn to deal with it - do you have form for having drama at work/in your life in general?

It’s pointless asking for advice here if you’re not going to elaborate on the ‘incident’ or why so many colleagues are ‘unhappy’ with you.

You've gone off sick because someone was rude to you? Really? From the outside you sound 'precious'! After years in retail and hospitality if I'd gone off sick every time someone was rude to me I'd never have been at work......

You can't be friends with everyone you work with. You just have to get the work done and be pleasant to your colleagues. Even if you change jobs you'll find that not everyone likes you or wants to be your friend. (None if my actual friends are people I've worked with....)

Op not elaborating makes it look like they have a point. If you’re not willing to explain honestly about what happened there is no point to the thread.

you need to work out what the issue is.

is it you? If so then try to work out how to amend your behaviour as this will be a consistent problem otherwise.

is it them, then yes you need to leave, but it is unusual for so many people to take against someone, however it is feasible.

In case OP is reading but doesn't want to post again.
If the "incident" was your mistake, fault, misjudgement - apologise. Own it, be a grown up and apologise. See if you can make amends. Accept their anger with you and learn from it.
If it was NOT your fault or mistake, my advice obviously changes, but you still have to deal with it.
Running away by leaving your job may actually be the best solution, but we can't tell, not without a fuller picture.
I suspect you're already getting appropriate advice from those who DO know the full story, so listen to them and do what they suggest. You just don't like what they're telling you. It doesn't mean they're wrong.