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Help me decide between 2 jobs

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D0llydaydreamz · 22/08/2024 11:46

I need help deciding between 2 jobs. I am about to return to work after maternity from havimg my first child.

Both jobs will be part-time

So i can either return to the call centre job ive been in for 6 years, i will be doing 6 hours a day, 4 days a week, i will need to do some weekends. I absolutely loathe this job however, it is mentally draining and im counting down the minutes until i leave. I got on with it before but now i have a child im wondering is it even worth doing it anymore because i dont need to be stressed on top of lookimg after a baby etc. The other part of me tells me to just suck it up cause the hours are great for when she starts school. Il pick her up every day and be home every evening for her, but then il be away from her most days while shes young etc

The other job i have been offered is in the caring sector. I have done this before so know all that comes with it. This role though is a bit more relaxed, i know id be happier in my day to day, its a lot more physical than my current job but id gladly do it cause I'd be getting a mental break from what im use to. The only issue is the shifts are 12 hours, but id only need to do 2 a week. Shifts are 8am-8pm, while shes a baby im thinking this is great as il be with her more often bar those 2 days, but when she starts school, 2 days of the week i wont be able to take her an pick her up or just be around in the evening, id miss her bed time. I feel like she will need me there as she grows up.

I do have husband who would obviously be there on the days i cant be. Am i just being too soft and wanting it all as its my first.child? 2 days a week surely wont impact her etc

Anyway enough babbling from me i just need help deciding. Whenever i decide on one, i think of the pros and cons then change my mind its so frustrating.

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MiddleAgedDread · 22/08/2024 11:50

Happiness and more free days a week for me!

D0llydaydreamz · 22/08/2024 12:02

MiddleAgedDread · 22/08/2024 11:50

Happiness and more free days a week for me!

Thanks, my mind is made up just from your reply. Why the hell was I pondering lol she deserves a happy mum who isn't there 2 nights a week than one who's always around but stressed xx

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tinklingchimes · 22/08/2024 12:06

I'd go for the second one.

Twoshoesnewshoes · 22/08/2024 12:07

Definitely two shifts a week and happy mummy
also, presuming your DH will drop off/pick up on those two days, it’s a good way for him to be part of her routine and also have some time with her.

Ihatemondays1962 · 22/08/2024 12:08

The two shifts a week definitely.

D0llydaydreamz · 22/08/2024 12:14

Thank you everyone. And very true the time with her dad will be great, I got so worried that I completely overlooked that. She will have wonderful memories of being with both parents one on one

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SwayzeM · 22/08/2024 13:27

Also don't forget you will be available more in the school holidays, so this will compensate for missing 2 evenings in term time. You will be able to create lots of memories in that time and potentially save a heap of money and trouble finding childcare for those weeks.

Meadowwild · 22/08/2024 13:28

I'd go for the carer role too. Way easier to be around 5 days a week and only need cover for two. And you'd enjoy it more. Call centre work is soul destroying.

LegoHouse274 · 22/08/2024 13:55

I'd pick whatever works best for you now, don't worry about school yet, that's ages away! In care work or call centre work there's no reason why you couldn't walk back into jobs in those sectors later down the line and change working patterns etc then anyway. You don't know what the future holds so I would just pick what works best for you now, which sounds like the care job. Good luck!

mumoffour44 · 22/08/2024 15:54

Definitely do whatever makes you happy. Life's too short xx

D0llydaydreamz · 22/08/2024 16:22

SwayzeM · 22/08/2024 13:27

Also don't forget you will be available more in the school holidays, so this will compensate for missing 2 evenings in term time. You will be able to create lots of memories in that time and potentially save a heap of money and trouble finding childcare for those weeks.

Yes great point, also didn't think about that either regarding the 6 weeks. So glad I asked for advice. Thanks to everyone.else who commented my decision is made :)

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melthemumtobe · 22/08/2024 16:59

Have you heard of ivee.jobs? They have an AI career guide that you can ask questions like this to - it's trained specifically to help mums returning to work after maternity xxx

SunshineAndFizz · 22/08/2024 17:03

Definitely the second one. Having 5 full days completely free to be there will be amazing, but more importantly it sounds like you'll enjoy the job more. All round better work/life balance.

D0llydaydreamz · 22/08/2024 17:15

melthemumtobe · 22/08/2024 16:59

Have you heard of ivee.jobs? They have an AI career guide that you can ask questions like this to - it's trained specifically to help mums returning to work after maternity xxx

Omg really that sounds so interesting il definitely keep that bookmarked. Thank you xx

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