Challenging Manager

[Sunrise12]

I have worked in the care industry for many years from supporting to Management.

A few years ago I decided to go back to supporting as I enjoy the interaction with clients etc.

My Deputy Manager has very little experience and I am finding myself challenging a lot of her decisions, as I have witnessed her “winging” her responses to situations which result in negative outcomes, when I have suggested ideas which could and have proven to work better.

I am very confident whereas she is not.

Do I have to “dumb” myself down in order for her to feel empowered and agree with her, basically follow what she is saying when I know there is a better way.

I understand she is my boss but is it my fault she does not have strong leadership skills.

i am thinking perhaps I should leave as our interactions are not healthy for both of us.

I think you should probably leave, otherwise it's just frustrating for both of you.

This is why a lot of companies don't like taking on ex managers for supporting roles.

I will send in my resignation today as this is sitting heavy on me and as you say it’s very frustrating for both of us. It’s not personal and she could possibly interpret/perceive my challenges as bullying, which would be very upsetting for me. I always back my reasoning with logic and want best outcomes for all but have been shut down with the attitude of I am your superior. Even the clients has voiced their concerns of her not being very good at her role.

Its a shame experience is not valued 😞

Yes, I think if you are in a supporting role and no longer management, you need to take a big step back.

The new manager in your workplace needs to find her feet and it does sound like you are struggling to let go.

I just wanted to add, I am leaving a ward i
love because I am stepping down as manager and it wouldn’t be fair to the incoming manager to remain on the ward.

It is a real shame as I love the ward but a new manager needs to be able to do things their way and find their feet without the ex manager being there!

Totally agree x