Manager said I was “doing his head in”

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Is this ever a work appropriate thing to say?

I have a meeting (about something completely different) tomorrow with his manager. Should I raise it?

For context (if needed), this was during a conversation about me mentoring a new starter. Historically my team haven’t been supportive in helping with things like that and I raised this. I might have had a grumble about it. He interrupted me and said “you’re doing my head in” and then carried on talking.

This isn’t the first strange thing he’s said and done. He’s nice as pie 80%of the time and then says and does things like this which catch you off guard so often I don’t nip it in the bud at the time.

Thoughts please. Thank you 🙂

I’ve heard worse.
Personally I’d shrug it off.

It obviously isn't a 100% professional thing to say, but if he is generally pleasant I would ask myself "was I doing his head in?"

Some of the most useful feedback I've had in life was from managers who were not being 100% professional. I weigh it up, and in my case there is often a grain of truth which is useful going forward.

As pp said really

It's not really the most appropriate or professional thing to say but I think it depends on the context.

Do you complain about this particular thing a lot?

Thanks for your responses. I’ll be honest I find this manager ‘all over the place’. Sometimes very friendly, jovial etc.

This manager generally has form for being incredibly pleasant, wanting to make friends with staff, but then not wanting to support or listen to people (general team feeling). Basically disappears when anything remotely in his paygrade crops up.

He tends to dismiss anyone’s concerns about anything.

Re. Have I complained about this thing before? No. I was raising concerns about the support/ workload I would have when supporting new starter.

Well I raised it with his manager in the meet and feel a lot more reassured.

Thank you for your replies.