Disappointed and embarrassed at interview

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I have been working in the same company for 20+years gaining 1 promotion in this time. Recently a further promotion came up and applied. Had an interview and it was disastrous, couldn't answer any of the questions and was physically shaking. Haven't got the job, which in theory I should have as I am so well experienced and could do the job very well. I'm so embarrassed that I was like that. Should I apologise to the people that interviewed me as I proper screwed up and coukd see their disappointment in me.

@whichfan - did you read the op? "Had an interview and it was disastrous, couldn't answer any of the questions and was physically shaking. " you can't add points, the questions were not answered

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The worst part is you may have a new colleague who has no idea of the role and will ask you 20 questions a day. You end up training someone for a job you could do with your eyes close.
Definitely get interview practice the next time . Can see someone outside the company if too awkward. Maybe write down as many of the questions as you can remember so can at least practice answers to those. You will get the hang of this. My friend made a mess of the first one but used her disappointment and anger to get loads of help for the next one. She came out with flying colours and has moved up a few grades since and is good at advising others now as she has it down to a T! Government jobs.
This can be turned around.

I feel your pain. Similar experience in April, still cringing. I don't speak the language of slick professional pattern.

But I could do the job no problem. I'm too "authentic" yikes

That practice is highly unethical and the other applicants would be furious if they knew you bumped up your colleagues score.

@Sethera has given the best advice. It’s pretty much what I did when I was hiring someone internally - I set up time with each of the unsuccessful internal candidates to give feedback, I knew one of them was in your position now not having given her best and she knew it too. By having a less formal chat, we’ve maintained a good relationship, reignited her confidence, and she went on to get a different internal promotion.

I'm so sorry you had a poor interview experience. I work in recruitment and we had an external candidate who had all the skills we were looking for but was clearly really struggling with the interview.

The candidate was offered a break so they could gather their thoughts. Half an hour alter they came back and smashed it.

If nerves are clearly impacting the candidate the hiring manager should see that and do everything they can to calm the candidate. The person who performs best at interview isn't always necessarily the best person for the job.

Maybe it's time to move to a more caring company OP?

Don't feel embarrassed about your performance. I've seen the most experienced people crumble in an interview. It's an emotional experience!

Ask for feedback and for help to learn how to perform under pressure. So next time you'll feel more confident.

well 2 years later, I can’t say i’m looking over my shoulder!

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Yes very well, I have worked with them for over 15years

and positive relationships?

go with @Sethera

You can get Beta Blockers to help with your nerves for future interviews

It's not just a formality. Depends on the organisation and competition. Many interview processes are auditable and she would have had to score highly enough to be appointable on the day.

If OP completely froze up it's a shame and no reflection on her ability. Everyone knows a good candidate can tank, but there's not a lot the interviewer could have done after a certain extent.

You can try and draw the candidate and squeeze out as many marks as possible of what's been said but you simply can't make up the scores if the marks aren't there in a lot of organisations.

Where I was, yes, we'd go on the application overall and look for marks if need be at interview. Of course we wouldn't just blindly go with whoever answered the questions best but if the best candidate genuinely gave us nothing to go on we'd have been stuck.

OP, I might follow this one up. You could ask for some feedback on your overall application, acknowledge your nerve failed at interview and you couldn't quite recover it in time but you hope to reapply is a similar post comes up and would appreciate any pointers to help with confidence