Help me look at this situation in a better way

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I work in a niche role which requires a unique skill set. I work like an external consultant , I am internal to the company. I work with middle and higher mgmt and I don't have a team of my own, I don't have a team I work regularly with. I work on projects, dipping in and out when needed.
I like this set up, gives me freedom and exposure.

This set up also means no career path. My salary is less than the market, I have never had a promotion in last 5 years, while delivering exceptional work. I reported under a board member.

Recently there has been a org restructure. I have now moved under a person who was on same level as mine.

Professionally I would like to move out of the company. Personally, my situation requires me to stay put at least for 1 year as organisation is good with good benefits, new manager is chill person.

Even though my role is mercenary kind, this restructure has hurt my pride. I am trying to get past it and focus on job , but I am unable to. It is grinding away at me, while I am trying to enjoy time at home.

Please can you suggest some ways how do I come to terms with it.

I think accepting you made a big mistake staying somewhere thatdidnt value you for 5 years.
Knowing that you know that now and it won't happen again...
And by having a plan. Its 1 year which really isnt long.
Id demand a payrise anyway because im sassy like that and I'd have my bags packed and be ready to walk out that door on day 365.
Do your CV early and start interviewing at month 9 (qualification completed by x date)

• I'd also use the year to do all my life admin. Follow up on all low level health things, bad back, feet, physio etc
• maybe set a "get fit goal". Run a 10k be able to do 1 pull up (i never got there 🤣)
• overhaul your wardrobe
• Declutter your house
• plan and go on a greaaaat travel holiday somewhere

In short, prepare for your new (great) life

First post is often the best! Thanks to the PP, great advice.

My first thought was also be thankful you didn’t get a promotion in a place you don’t want to stay. That would have forced you to step up and give more to the company.

You’ve done the 5 years - no point agonizing about that, it’s done. Even if you have overstayed, for a “reframe”, consider/write down all the great things you got out of it/learned while you were there.

If you’re finding it really hard to get past, a coaching trick is to give yourself a timeframe to wallow in and then move on. So you could allow yourself 2 more days to feel bad and sorry for yourself as much as you want and then draw a line under it.

Use this next year as PP said to prep your CV, interviews etc.

Good luck! Sounds like you have an interesting job you can build on 👍

@TemuSpecialBuy Thank you.

You are right, this is a lesson learnt.

I have already updated my CV and been in touch with recruiters. Market should be better in first half of the next year🤞

@BrightNewLife thanks.

Drawing the line after 2 days is the thing that's not happening! I will keep at it.

My job is interesting and fun. Work quality and exposure kept me here and there were other personal priorities which restricted my job search a bit.
After next 1 years my personal situation will be a lot better.

Hello,

Thought I will post a quick update. I have just accepted an offer for a new role, joining in Feb. It is a side ways move so little salary increase. The main benefit is the culture change and I have managed to bring myself in a role which has a defined career path.

Thank you for your ideas. In the last one year I did manage to move houses, upgrade my wardrobe and work a bit on my health. :)