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A staff complaining about how I don’t support her

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Amimade · 25/07/2024 20:18

I would really appreciate any advice or suggestions to help me understand this situation.
I manage a staff who is always complaining that she is not getting any support from me . She would have lateness at least 6-8 times a month, often family members illness , gas leaks, and neighbours issues etc.

I have been really patient with her and have always gone with the flow because I am confident that she would not compromise her work. The issue is that her demands are now more frequent and she gets annoyed if others staff are allowed to be in late e.g Dr appt , school etc. Recently her Dr has recommended work from home. I can’t approve this and instead allowed frequent short breaks (OH). We had a meeting two week ago, told her the job can’t be done from home. She is now claiming that she doesn’t feel supported by me.I want to be fair to everyone as we are always busy and overworked ( public facing).
She has now contacted several other managers telling them how unreasonable I am. I am fed up and disappointed that she is behaving this way. I want to forward her emails
of lateness to the other managers but don’t want to stoop to her level. Please help me understand why she is so upset.

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Offredismysister · 25/07/2024 20:26

Because she’s not getting her own way. You can be supportive, but you have to meet the needs of your service. Is there a formal process for requesting flexible working? She can’t get upset about other staff members GP appts etc as it’s not her business, it’s confidential. I would say if it carries on it’s a conduct issue & you might have to contact HR.

cupcaske123 · 25/07/2024 20:28

I would start following formal procedure. She's blatantly undermining you and she's always late.

Izzynohopanda · 25/07/2024 20:31

I would document everything down so you have evidence of her lateness frequency, demands etc. Have you been asked about your management with her, or just aware that she is gossiping?

She sounds like a snowflake/drama llama/princess and is the type of person who expects everyone to do her bidding. She’s not used to not getting her own way.

Doggymummar · 25/07/2024 20:34

Gosh, first late verbal warning second written third dismissal. She's taking the mick

Aussieland · 25/07/2024 20:35

you need to performance manage her formally

Amimade · 25/07/2024 21:01

Thank you so much everyone for your replies. I really needed this advice, it’s been so hard for the past few weeks. I am so relieved and ready to go formal. Thank you 🙏

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Andwegoroundagain · 25/07/2024 21:09

Just engage your HR Team and walk through the background and emails. They can support you

HelplessSoul · 25/07/2024 22:06

Who gives a fuck why she is upset.

Proceed with conduct/disciplinary/performance issues and get her fired.

Youre her manager - so manager her out.

Whatevershallidowithmylife · 25/07/2024 22:13

Doggymummar · 25/07/2024 20:34

Gosh, first late verbal warning second written third dismissal. She's taking the mick

Doesn’t work like that my more …

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