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Is he hitting on Me?

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Toomanyfrogs · 25/07/2024 18:36

Hi, just before I get into it I'll just say that I haven't dated or even anything remotely close for 12 years, so either i am overthinking things or have been oblivious to a co workers flirt attempts, that's the question really is he hitting on me. I have worked at my job for a few months now and a certain guy has always made an effort to say hi and ask about my day, and recently has started asking me more questions like about my kids and who I live with etc, I tend to catch him looking at me a lot and he often winks at me, all could be platonic, then he offered to drop me home one evening after work and I accepted, all was platonic he started to tell me that he was single etc and his goals, the next day at work he randomly said to me in a flirty way "when are you inviting me for dinner then" while grinning and that's when i started to wonder omg is he hitting on me? Honestly I wouldn't mind getting to know him better but am I overthinking this? It's making me nervous at work but not in a way where I feel harassed just nervous! We are both early 30s so not teenagers but this is making me feel like one 😊 what do I do? Thanks in advance for any advice

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owladventure · 25/07/2024 18:45

Do you like him?

Toomanyfrogs · 25/07/2024 18:53

owladventure · 25/07/2024 18:45

Do you like him?

I think i do, I think i would be open to getting to know him

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owladventure · 25/07/2024 20:50

How small is your workplace? If things went wrong with him or he knocks you back, would it be uncomfortable to still have to work together or would you be able to create distance (professionally)?

You've only worked there a few months, have you passed probation? Have you got an accurate sense of his reputation?

He seems slightly pushy to me - and not exactly subtle - so I'm not sure I'd be that keen, but I'm only reading a brief summary. If you're comfortable with his behaviour towards you then that counts more because you have more data.

If you're comfortable with the "risk" of potentially getting involved with a colleague, then ask him for a drink and see what happens?

If he starts racing towards sex though then I'd write him off as the workplace sleaze. You haven't worked there long enough to necessarily be aware of which men try to get every female new starter into bed.

Toomanyfrogs · 25/07/2024 21:07

owladventure · 25/07/2024 20:50

How small is your workplace? If things went wrong with him or he knocks you back, would it be uncomfortable to still have to work together or would you be able to create distance (professionally)?

You've only worked there a few months, have you passed probation? Have you got an accurate sense of his reputation?

He seems slightly pushy to me - and not exactly subtle - so I'm not sure I'd be that keen, but I'm only reading a brief summary. If you're comfortable with his behaviour towards you then that counts more because you have more data.

If you're comfortable with the "risk" of potentially getting involved with a colleague, then ask him for a drink and see what happens?

If he starts racing towards sex though then I'd write him off as the workplace sleaze. You haven't worked there long enough to necessarily be aware of which men try to get every female new starter into bed.

Hi thanks for your reply this has opened my eyes more, that's what I'm wondering really if he is hitting on me what are his intentions? I will have to ask if he decides to make any advances towards me?.. I have passed probation and get on well with everyone and I have remained professional throughout. I wasn't looking for any relationship especially at work 😂 and I don't want to make myself look cheap at work haha, I'm just rusty and not really knowing how to read the situation or what to do, I do feel something there but maybe curiosity is more like what I'm feeling, if he asked if I would meet up outside of work I think i would like to. Nervous about going back in and seeing him 😬

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