long post alert, thank you for those who make it to the end.
I have worked for the same organisation for 13 years, loved it.
Never had a single issue with any member of staff, my hard work has always been recognised and haven’t had a single sick day since 2016.
Back in November 2023, my new line manager started - let’s call him John. John then appoints his friend as a team leader for the area I work within, we will call him Kane. He started in January. Since then we have had nothing but hassle. 3 members of staff have been off on long term sick due to him bullying, one of which has and is still off 4 months down the line.
I am knowledgable and ensure I complete tasks to the best of my ability, so I have sent Kane as much information as I could to help him settle in and learn the ropes. It became apparent VERY quickly that he was unmanageable, unwilling to take any advice and do as he pleases.
In February I suffered from my first miscarriage, I was extremely stressed with work. Three days after my miscarriage, in the office I was approached by Kane in an aggressive manner, he was very confrontational and intimidating trying to reason why he had sacked someone. I repeated over 5 times that it was none of my business and I didn’t wish to continue the conversation. This prompted me to approach HR. I requested for this to be informal at first and for John to just have a polite word with Kane about his attitude.
John called a meeting with myself and another manager. In this meeting he stated:
- Kane was going nowhere
- Kane is from Manchester, that’s why he comes across rude/agreessive and I just need to get used to it.
Stupidly, I let this slide. I was so stressed. Roll on to March I suffer a second miscarriage. I took 3 days of work, only to come back to an email that he sent out to say another one of our colleagues was pregnant and not to mither them or add any stress. I was devastated, it was ok for him to add stress onto me?
I have had several more situations with him which bring us onto last week where he again, undermined me and sent me an awful email including “I know you don’t like me, but I am doing what’s most cost effective for the business and you are being resistance” … I broke down; it was the final straw.
Do you think it’s appropriate at this point to put a grievance in. I have been offered another job, which I have accepted in a different company as I cannot take anymore. But I don’t have a start date. Also don’t think he should get away Scott free.
Union has said his behaviour is appalling … let me know your thoughts and experiences with grievances.
Thank you in advance x x