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Getting through 3 months notice period with difficult boss

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Curlewwoohoo · 08/07/2024 14:04

This is for DH. He's been having a rough time with a new boss. Company sacked his old Director who had taken him on, really unpleasant situation, DH privy to a lot of it as an independent witness. New Director came in and seems to have him marked. Hyper critical. Very micromanaging, then turns around and says he's not getting enough help from DH. DH has always had very positive reviews from previous managers and has been promoted up within the company. New Director gave him a very negative performance review and said he's not performing, but not able to substantiate with any evidence. DH's confidence and mood shot to pieces. He's had to take steps to manage anxiety and physical effects. So he's really pleased to find a new job to go to. Just waiting for contract then will hand in his notice. However, his notice period is 3 months. He's not got much leave to take and in fact might need to cancel some over the summer. How can he get through this 3 months? Firstly psychologically, and secondly with his professional reputation intact?

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BeenThere0 · 08/07/2024 14:20

Best thing that helped a friend (on my advice!) in a similar situation is doing some physical exercise in the morning (just before going to work), for example going to gym near the office. (For some people, however, I know that exercise/gym has max mental benefit when done in the evening instead). And a lot of deep breathing. And play the comedy channel (or similar) for him at home if you can - comedy does wonders to the mind.

Ineedanewsofa · 08/07/2024 14:27

What’s his paid sick entitlement like? I’m not suggesting he should rinse it completely but understanding what his contractual entitlement is could help get through the day to day knowing he can have some paid time off if he needs it
TBH they should start winding him down as soon as he hands his notice in otherwise they’ll struggle when he goes - given the relationship is strained they might allow him to go sooner anyway. Is he going to the competition? If so, he might get 3 months off anyway!

maryberryslayers · 08/07/2024 14:49

Absolute work to rule. Smile and nod at arsehole boss in the knowledge he'll soon be able to leave. If all else fails ask to leavr

Curlewwoohoo · 08/07/2024 16:16

Bit difficult to work to rule in a way, as he's not been given any work objectives for over a year, currently isn't allowed to sign off any work by his line reports himself, has to have weekly walking meetings with his Director while he belittles him and criticises his work, the way he runs his team, everything...

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Babydaddy1978 · 24/07/2024 16:53

get and sign contract with new role. Ensure any checks etc complete and start date confirmed.

Then raise formal grievance with current boss. Throw everything at him.

go to doctors and get signed off with stress, mental health issues due to boss behaviour.

tell current firm you will drop grievance if placed on garden leave with full pay.

get them to put this in writing

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