Work isn't supportive

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Of me at all.

If I go out on the weekend/go on holiday/buy a new car - they tell me I'm a pampered princess.

When I walk into the office, two older ladies won't lift their heads to look at me and will turn their backs to me.

One of these women had something to show the office and asked all the other women except me to go and see what she had bought.

It makes me feel lonely. I really haven't done anything wrong.

Ok. I’ll bite. Why do they think you are a pampered princess?

What? This is so weird. Can you find alternative employment?

Because I go on holiday, my husband is a good man /takes me out etc.

Well, that's not work being supportive; that's you not getting on with your fellow employees.

Why do you think this is?

What's with the 'pampered princess' stuff?

Ok that's all just standard stuff though. This sounds so bizarre.

It’s work not a social club. Just crack on with your job and ignore this petty behaviour.

How do they know all this??

They sound jealous as sin......try and not take it so personally they are not as lucky as you are or don't have the interpersonal skills to maintain meaningful relationships in their lives.

Next time they start spouting bs tell them to stop talking crap.

Yeah I guess I take it personally.
I know it's my job but colleagues are important. They make me feel like crap, they aren't kind and are just jealous people you're right.

Not everyone is at work to make friends. Most of us do it because we have bills to pay and like to eat occasionally.

Why do you think they're jealous? Maybe they're distant because they don't really care to hear about your husband and whether he takes you on dates. It's great for you, but not really anything to do with them.

Don't tell them anything then. They can't bitch about it if they don't know what you are up to.

If you're not happy there then it's time to look for another job.

Have you spoken to anyone in work about this? They can't be supportive if they don't know there's an issue? These two 'ladies' need to be firmly told that you don't have to like people but you have to work with them and be civil.

Do you give off princess vibes?

My hubby and I have a lot more money than my close colleagues so I’m aware of my audience and don’t go on about weekends at the boat while they’re talking about the electricity bill. I also don’t wear expensive watchers or jewellery that would single me out.

I guess I can’t work out how they know so much if they don’t talk to you ?

Theyre on facebook. And they do talk to me its just I can tell they turn their nose up sometimes and tell me I'm spoiled and a princess often. They don't think I'm committed to work.

Just delete them as FB friends and set your profile to private. No need for them to know anything about what you’re up to.

Do they have reason for thinking you don’t take work seriously? IME people usually only think that if it’s true.

Facebook- so you must all be over 40?
You write like much younger.

I was just going to say you sound quite young too although saying your husband 'takes you out' sounds older!

Why are you 'friends' with them on Facebook?

Why don't they think you're committed to work?

The other stuff is SO normal, like buying a car/going on holiday that I can't imagine they're jealous. 😳

It's impossible to say why they're acting this way, but they sound awful.

Lots of people on my FB are under 30, let alone 40?

That's not to say they don't use Insta etc too, but they still use FB.

Block them on FB. I have nobody from work on mine.

How do they know?

Sounds like they don't like you - maybe they are all awful bullies or maybe you are indeed a pampered Princess but you are there to do a job and get paid not make friends.
IF you think you are being bullied you can raise it with HR but you can't make people like you

Facebook- so you must all be over 40? You write like much younger

Silly ageist stereotyping. 👆

OP block them and change your settings to private.

Don't discuss your private life at work.

Sounds nasty and toxic. Many work places are!

I have sent you a PM