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Help me find a really good life coach please

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Thepeopleversuswork · 21/06/2024 07:35

I am at a bit of a crossroads in life. In my early 50s. My job is well paid and on paper is “good” (and quite interesting) but I feel stuck in a rut. I feel alienated from the culture and values, and also feel there is “something else” for me. I don’t get time for anything else other than work and there’s loads of stuff I am missing out on.

I can’t easily reduce my income or downsize at the moment as my daughter is approaching GCSEs. But for various reasons I am finding my job soul destroying and I know I can’t do it for another ten years.

I need some good advice that goes beyond just finding a job that’s slightly better paid with more flexibility so something more radical than just careers advice. But also can’t abide woo of any kind so anything with nonsense about the soul or chakras or the like will instantly piss me off (I have had coaching like this before and it didn’t go well). It needs to be pragmatic and real.

Any suggestions for how I could break out of the rut? Any recommendations for good coaches?

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marniemae · 21/06/2024 11:22

Thepeopleversuswork · 21/06/2024 10:05

@Candleabra

Why the need to work every weekend too? Can you not do your job in the allocated hours, are the expectations too high? I would make finding a new job your top priority.

Theres too much to do and too few people who can do it fast enough and to the standard required. I know it sounds nuts to people who aren’t used to it. But I promise you it’s very hard in practice to do less.

Also finding a new job probably won’t change this. At the level I work the expectation would be very long hours as a baseline. The only way to reduce pressure would be to reduce hours, which I can’t do.

The person who used to do my role thought like this she said she stayed on for 15 years because no one else could possibly do the work and worked so much overtime for free because if she didn't do it who would. I've been doing it 6 months now and not to dampen her achievements but I'm capable and refused to do unpaid overtime and they hired someone else and now give me overtime payment for any work I do outside my hours which isn't a lot now. I know when I leave I'll be forgotten and someone else will take on the role and do it well. Sometimes thinking you're very important at work and trying to do it all isn't the answer. At work everyone is replaceable.

BecuaseIWantItThatWay · 24/06/2024 21:50

Highly recommend Emilie West alchemycoaching.co.uk ⭐

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