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Go back to old employer or new role

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Woshl · 07/06/2024 22:39

Moved jobs 3 months ago and knew after the first day it was a mistake. I've been anxious and miserable ever since and desperate to leave..it's really impacted on my mental health and confidence.
My old employer offered me a role back and I accepted and signed a contract. There have been some changes so won't be exact same role but my manager is flexible when it comes to childcare and they matched pay to current role. I'm due to start in 2 weeks and my notice period is a month.
In the meantime I have been offered another role elsewhere with a 10k salary boost. I flunked the test for the role but they still offered me it. I know my confidence is rock bottom but I don't know what to do.
A - go back to old employer and decline new role (36hrs wk) . try and sort my head out.
B - take new role with pay increase (40hrs), burn bridges with old employer and uncertainty of if I'm capable of doing job (it's a step up). The recruiter has said they are very flexible but my current role also said that and it was bullshit*t. I also don't know if my old employer will hold me to my contract.

In one instance I'm thinking about chasing money and long term career prospects. The other is thinking about my current mental health and going with a safe option for now that still pays ok but I know for sure I can flex around my family.

Any advice

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mynewusername2023 · 07/06/2024 22:43

It sounds like your confidence has taken a knock and you could do with some breathing room to take stock and recover. I'd go back to the old employer as I suspect that role will give you a chance to get sorted as it will feel comfortable.

Then perhaps down the road, if you want to explore other opportunities you'll feel in a better place to do that. In order to not burn any future bridges with the old employer you'll probably want to stay at least a year or 2.

Hope you feel better soon.

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