What to do?

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I started a job only Monday and I hate it
I know it's early days and it's not that
I can't do the job I'm sure in time but the list is endless of why I hate it - lots of red flags

The girl I'm taking over and another girl are leaving and you can tell hate it and they've been very professional but anyway I have decided to go

My dilemma is I turned a job down for this job so I emailed them on the off chance preparing myself for a no or it's not available etc and asked if it's still available and explained my reasons why I went for this one and their response was lovely and basically I can start there ! But the start date will be in around a month as I've now missed the last intake

My question is -

What do I say to this new job?a question of when....

1/ i say how I feel but say I can stay and help where I can until I start my new job

2/ say nothing and stick it out until I get something

I can't afford to not work but reason why I'm
Leaning towards option 1 they want to do my DBS and haven't signed a contact yet as they said ' they need to spend some time writing one ' so I don't want to put them out when they can spend time finding someone else

It's an office manager role to it's very involved and pretty much the two ladies going run that office so I feel if I stay without saying anything they would be investing in me etc

But also I need to think of myself also

What does everyone think i should do?

Thank you for reading

What ever you do get you new role contract signed and fully confirmed.

My last role I left a role I had been happy in for 7 years for.

Day one I know I had made a huge mistake, organisation, workload, standards culture etc, I did 4 months then left to do agency work until I found something better.

you don’t owe the new employers anything, it’s their problem they can’t keep staff not yours, get out ASAP! Do a few weeks waiting tables via an agency if you need to but get out

Yoh dont have a contract, I would walk noe. They might not even pay you anyway without a contract.

an actual contract (document) isn't always necessary. The fact the OP has showed up to work means they have fulfilled their side of the contract. If they fail to pay for the hours worked the OP could contact ACAS to start with, with a view to initiating a Tribunal Case against the employer for withholding their wages. That is unlikely to be necessary.

if the OP does leave now without giving the statutory 1 week's notice that would not be a wise move, and could have the employer refuse to pay. Always best to play by the rule book

Accept the new job.
Resign from the current one you don't like.
Just say "thanks but it wasn't for me" and give no further info.
As you only just started your notice period is probably v short, like a week.
So resign 1 week before you start the other role. Or give yourself a couple of days off to by resigning 2 days earlier than you need to.
If they plead with you to stay the answer is no.

Hmmn. Couldn't quite work out all the ins and outs.

You're working to live. Focus on that.

The lower the wage - it might just be me - but the more people who operate on a little power.

Every manager expects drop outs and even when a contract is agreed, unless they show up on the first day. Because every hire you want is also talking to several companies.

So just focus on you. You don't need excuses.

But if you do:

1. The job description posted did not match the actual job

2. I didn't feel comfortable working there

Just move on, and find a job that suits your lifestyle.

I'm a carer. I've been with my company 18 months. I recently applied to another care company.

Both companies did my DBS almost as soon as I applied. They didn't onboard me with any training AT ALL until the DBS came back. And only then was my contract issued.

Why are you there at all without a DBS and contract?

IMO you shouldn't have started the job in until your DBS came back!

Usually new jobs have a week's notice for the first few months. If you've no contract it's a day's notice. If you don't have a contract signed and no DBS you are essentially not actually working for them yet (although unless they could prove you were on training they will have to pay you).

Agree with PPs - if you need a DBS this should be done and cleared before you start the job!

Do you need one for the new job? If so remind them now (although if they are not up to speed with that then it's probably another company to avoid working for...)

With no contract signed I just wouldn’t go back. I did the same years ago and the relief at not having to go back to that horrendous place was enormous. Just send an email saying ‘sorry the job is not for me’.

Then get some temp work until the new job starts.

It doesn't sound like OP is actually doing care work. As an office manager for a care company it's not essential to have a dbs. You're not working directly with care clients and whilst you are handling their confidential information that's no different to many office manager roles outside the care sector. Even in the NHS a manager who doesn't have direct access to patients, only their records, is not eligible for a standard dbs check.
If it were a carer going out to clients alone without the dbs absolutely not okay, but that's not what this is.