Would it be too cruel on DS?

[pucca]

I have always said i would be a SAHM while my dc are little, dd starts primary in Sept and ds is 20 months.

However a dream job has arisen and i have applied, it is full time, i would prob get some help with childcare but that isn;t really the issue, would it be hard on ds to put him in nursery now full time? especially after being a SAHM for so long, would it be wickedly selfish of me? we could do with the money, but we could also manage with me staying a SAHM till ds goes to school.

ponder, ponder.

Forgot to add, dd wouldnt be a prob as my parents could pick her up from school and look after her until i got home.

No,it's not crule.
Only you can make a decision that is righgt for you though.

He is outgoing compared to dd, but at times very clingy too, but this job is just perfect for me and good money! would a child minder be a better idea do you think? more one on one?

OK, well I don't think it's cruel but it might be very hard on you - that's quite a change from SAHM to full time when you'd intended doing the former. My personal choice would be not to put my DS in nursery full time but I know people do it.
If you get the job, could you negotiate to do it part time, say 4 days?
And could your parents help out a couple of days a week?

Why is it a dream job? And won't another come up in a couple of years when you're more ready?

It's up to you Pucca.
I used a nursery when mine were little as i know how difficult and tiring looking after babies can be and figured less stressful for everyone if more than one person assumed responsibility.Now they're older have a lovely childminder thoguh.

You hav to make the decision that is right for you and yours.I went back to work when ds was 4 months old because a dream position had come up in the company I worked for and he was fine,I suffered initally but in the end it all worked out for the best.

I think my main concern is that he is at that funny age now, if he was under 12 months i wouldn't feel so bad about it, but he is used to me being here 24/7, it is just this job as it is more money than i could ever hope to earn and is pretty much a once in a lifetime type thing.

For what its worth I dont think any age is an ideal age to go back to work,every age brings different problems,you have to do whats best for you,but what ever you decide best of luck.