Can’t go in like this.

[Mentallyknackered]

I’m one half of a team at work, my other half has been off sick for over 2yrs. We are the only 2 licensed to do our particular job. So during this time I have been battling on, juggling work and basically making myself ill as well as upsetting home life with my awful moods.

There has been no assistance until before Christmas when I was given 4 hours of admin help per week. The first temp wasn’t great and decided it wasn’t for her after 8 weeks. Someone else then starts and they too have given up, it’s not the easiest of jobs admittedly but they were only covering admin.

Now I’m back at square one but this time my head just can not cope, I can’t see a way forward anymore. I just want to stay in bed all the time. I feel like I’m falling to bits.

Over the last 2+years I have had multiple meetings to explain the situation isn’t sustainable and all promises are made but no real action.

Im not sure what else to do, last year I ended up off work sick for 8 weeks, I was exhausted but this time I feel like I’ve given up, I can’t seem to step back, my head feels like it is no longer working and I can’t even force myself to try.

Any advice much appreciated.

Leave. Your employer does not have your back and after 2 years that is not going to change.

What did they do when you were off for 8 weeks? Whatever it was tell them they need to keep doing that, or you will leave.

Unless you are self employed, this is a concern for your manager and not you. Work to rule, have the time off you need and stay off if you are too ill to return.

If you want to stay then I’d suggest only doing what you can do within your fixed hours and keeping up very clear email communication about what you can’t achieve because there is no time. Make it painfully clear to them.

However, if you have somehow managed to cope for two years they may take a poor view of this - wrongly, obviously.

Time for a big decision. It doesn’t sound like they care.

They did nothing, all the work and new work waited for me to return.

I stupidly went back and listened to the empty promises.

Managers in our organisation come and go, im on my 5th manager in 3 yrs.

You need to look far another job Get signed off with stress while you do this

Thank you all, I spent today at home trying to get my head around it all. I can’t believe I’ve been so daft to continue to allow them to treat me so badly. I think my career here has come to an end.

There is a complete loss of trust and confidence.

Time for a new job - go somewhere that appreciates you

So just a quick update…. Another member of staff is now being shipped in to help out, I only found this out from the staff member, Manager hasn’t bothered to discuss or ask who/what is required.

This person isn’t trained and work’s different hours to me and I’m the one who had to change my day to suit their hours.

I then have to get them trained or organise their training.

Im grateful for this person but I would have appreciated a discussion with my Manager regarding this. To be honest all my Manager has done is ticked the tick list to providing a staff member regardless of what was needed or how useful they would be.

You shouldn't be changing your hours, but at least someone is coming, a new person was always going to need training at least this manager has done something, even if the solution isn't perfect

I would still look for a new job.

If you are now managing a new person as well as being responsible for making sure the work is done to an acceptable standard they should be looking to re-grade you with a substantial raise.

May not help you to be happier but puts you in a better position when looking for a new job!

Thank you, I may suggest this.

I feel all trust has been broken, so much let downs and non conversations regarding my role and the changes.