Due to start a new job Tuesday and I'm ill

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Sorry just having a whinge and nowhere to say it.

Tuesday I'm supposed to start my new job, it's one I've been waiting for, for weeks. This weekend I've got the most vile cough and cold. A couple of times I've coughed so long and hard I've made myself sick, dizzy and it's hard to breathe; so I'm feeling incredibly sorry for myself.

Realistically I can't not start but it's not the best impression, nor does it let me start with my best foot forward.

Couple that an argument with DP (he's not wanted me to start this week since I was offered the position as he wanted to go on holiday I've said no because I can't afford to delay nor a holiday!) and the shine has been taken off something I should be excited for.

So as not to drip feed, we don't live together, both have a son each, and the way this company do inductions all new employees start the same day each month. Three weeks of induction then off to your team. I cannot physically afford to delay as it would another 8 weeks without pay.

I just wanted to spend tomorrow relaxing, preparing and getting excited to start at the dream company now I feel guilty for upsetting him and bad I may infect everyone else in the induction.

Lose the man. He should support your career and lift you up.

You’ve still got 36 hours. Get a good nights sleep, have a restful day tomorrow with healthy food and plenty of fluids, and brave it on Tuesday. You’ll likely feel better in a few days anyway and it’s a short week, so it’ll be Friday before you know it.

And yes, the man sounds like a prick. Don’t let him mess up your fresh start.

You can’t not go.

agree your dp sounds like a dick

You still have a day to get a bit better. Rest and drink loads of fluids! On Tuesday dose up on drugs and get through the day. It's a short week through to the weekend when you can fully recover and it's only the induction so you won't need to actually do much.
Your OH is unreasonable, the job market is tough right now and you should prioritise the role. You can go on holiday another time. In any case you're ill so wouldn't enjoy a holiday.
Good luck.

Dose yourself up with every cough remedy under the sun, and show up on Tuesday.

I absolutely will be going, I'm more annoyed I won't be making the professional vision I wanted too, instead I'll be a coughing, snotty mess!

He's just informed he has booked a four day trip next week for us all because he's sick of going round in circles. Sadly it's another absolute waste of money because he refuses to listen.

Time to re-evaluate I can't deal with the tantrum when he won't get his own way again. But let's get this week out the way first.

Day nurse is amazing, makes my colds disappear as long as I top up every 4 hours. You have to go in, don't mention the cold and just do a good job.

The guy sounds unsupportive and a bit of an idiot.

Not me ordering day nurse off Amazon...

I definitely won't mention it. But I think the coughing fits will give me away 😂

Tell your DP to go home and then turn your ringer off so you don't have to listen to his nonsense.

Hope you have some nice hot Cups of Tea and take a few vitamin C tablets and get yourself a nice rest for tomorrow.

Oh god sending sympathy!
I had to call my new employer and delay my start date by a day due to a funeral (they had already waited 3 months for me to start 🫣), they were fine about it, really lovely actually. Then the day before the funeral I came out in a disgusting migraine (stress induced because of the funeral), dragged myself to the funeral and then started my new job the next day feeling utterly wretched.
Very fortunately, it was a slow day just getting my tech up and running, my laptop hadn’t arrived so for a while I was just doing absolutely nothing.
get a good nights sleep tonight and rest up tomorrow, lots of fluids and dozing if you can.
💐

Well being the sad case I am, I've packed my work bag ready, filled the car with diesel and prepared my lunch to take with me and I've spoken with ASBO dog about his behaviour with the dog walker and the importance of not showing me up. Still full of this ridiculous cold.

'D'P is still being an arse with such gems as "I told you to tell them you can't do this week" and "you're letting everyone down" over text. Pretty sure I would let everyone down more when I can no longer pay the bills and put food on the table.

So the shine has most definitely been taken off this which I'm sad about, but I'm determined to make the best of my day.

Good luck tomorrow OP!

Don't let a sulking P take the shine off things and I hope you're feeling better. New job adrenaline should at least help you get through the day.