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Being assertive at the right time

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Isityourorme · 25/05/2024 10:05

I'm the sort of person who doesn't like conflict, but when/if it comes to it, I will stand up for myself if I feel wronged. But I feel the problem is, I'm slightly slow in reacting in such situations. I.e just this morning, neighbour next door has builders changing the roof, they were chucking the tiles right off the scaffolding onto a pile of rubbish. Clear health and safety breach, while they were doing this, I came out my front door to go shopping, knowing full well that what they're doing is not right. But for some reason, I remained silent, got in my car and left, but I was fuming. Imagine a family member comes out and they get injured? Or the car gets damaged? I resolved myself to speaking with them on my return, which I did, they were apologetic, etc...my point is, Im kicking myself for not having spoken with them as I came out my house. It's like I get a noticeable sense of unease, not overwhelming, but strong enough to silence me. But then upon returning to the situation if it's ongoing, I will talk or I will promise myself that I'll speak up right off the bat next time. Happens at work as well. I want this to change, any tips/advice etc?? Perhaps I need to make a conscious effort to notice this, take a deep breath and speak. Any advice appreaciated

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steamedisbest · 25/05/2024 10:36

you are “fuming”
you seem to think addressing issues needs to be confrontational

why not just go over there and point out your concern and ask them to be a bit more careful please

steamedisbest · 25/05/2024 10:37

oh you did

well there we go. all worked out well. so remember this result for next time 🤷

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