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I don’t care about my job after having kids

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boymama88 · 13/05/2024 15:37

I’ve got a 2 year old son so I’ve been back to work almost a year now (part time since mat leave). I didn’t have the best experience upon returning but it sorted itself out eventually but ever since, I’ve been incredibly unmotivated and find it hard to care about what I do. I used to love my job, be the sort that went above and beyond, took pride in my work and was a bit of a perfectionist. Now I find myself procrastinating a lot, doing the bare minimum and spending half my day feeling guilty that I’m not doing more, but not doing anything about it.

I think since becoming a Mum, nothing feels as important to me. I definitely don’t want to be SAHM though as I do enjoy the balance of working part time. I also wouldn’t be able to afford to! I also don’t feel like it’s worth looking for another job as I’d like to try for another baby at some point. So I just feel a bit stuck.

Anyone else feel like this after having kids? Just looking for solidarity and shared experiences. When did it get better for you?

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Savemykitchen · 13/05/2024 15:42

Abso-bloody-lutely. I'm 8 months into working and I'm shit at my job, and struggling to care. It's frustrating because I'm my own worst enemy, my job is manageable-ish if I just focused. But it feels impossible.

However, I would chuck it in within a heartbeat for the chance to be a SAHM for a few years whilst DC is little. I hate having to hand them over to childcare.

fao · 13/05/2024 18:03

Oh gosh, I'm sat here trying to write an email to work asking if I can go part time. My one year mat leave was up in Feb and I pushed my start date back to June. And now it's looming, I just want to hand my notice in.

KittensSchmittens · 13/05/2024 21:49

Yeah, same. Oldest is nearly 8 and I still don't care about my job. It all seems so pointless and insignificant now. I have a proper 'bullshit job', one of those jobs that exists solely to move paperwork from one place to another, so it's not like I'm out saving lives to make being away from the dc worth it. I can't even pretend to care very effectively.

Luckysmum · 13/05/2024 21:54

Yes, I feel the same most days. I'm part time with 2 and 5 year olds. My boss is encouraging me to increase my hours but I just can't find the motivation to spend any more time a work than I already do.
I'm ok when I'm busy at work but if there is a quiet moment I just wish the day away.

Savemykitchen · 14/05/2024 11:00

Are most people WFH? I can't quite figure out if it's a blessing or a curse. I have amazing flexibility to work around DC/childcare. But, lines are so blurred I have zero ability to focus or apply myself properly. I'm sat on a work call thinking about what I need to get prepared for tea, I'm caring for DC, but can see my work laptop full of deadlines in the corner of the room... Nothing is being done well and it's exhausting.

livingnight · 14/05/2024 13:20

Savemykitchen · 14/05/2024 11:00

Are most people WFH? I can't quite figure out if it's a blessing or a curse. I have amazing flexibility to work around DC/childcare. But, lines are so blurred I have zero ability to focus or apply myself properly. I'm sat on a work call thinking about what I need to get prepared for tea, I'm caring for DC, but can see my work laptop full of deadlines in the corner of the room... Nothing is being done well and it's exhausting.

I am. What I found the most helpful is having a room for work and only work (I know housing crisis). Before then the lines were literally to blurry for me

happypickle · 14/05/2024 13:33

Same here, I have no motivation, just doing the bare minimum to get by.

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