Major F Up.

[ToBeOrNotToBee]

So, in my wisdom this morning missed an external meeting. Not just late, but completely missed. I thought it was tomorrow, the bank holiday really messed up my clock.
I checked yesterday, made a mental note that Thursday morning was meeting day, but in my head was still on Tuesday.

My manager was meeting me there, and called me when meeting was starting, obviously to check in, I didn't realise my work phone had died in my work bag overnight.

I need to own this mistake, and believe me I will, but holy crap, such a basic error, I can't believe I made it.

My stomach has been in knots since, panic poops, feeling sick, anxiety the lot.

My manager still hasn't called me since (meeting should have finished half hour ago), this is bad isn't it.

Anyone??

It happens to the best of us xx

Fingers crossed all goes well

It's not the end of the world, and there isn't much you can do about it now OP. Just own it and apologise.

It's embarrassing but as a one-off sometimes these things happen.

Call your manager now though, don't hide - that will make it worse.

If you've been there a while and this is out of character then just apologise and assure you're manager it was a one-off which won't happen again. We've all cocked up at one time or another.

What was the meeting for? Should you have been presenting something? Delivering an update?

It's going to be embarrassing but I'd call your manager now / send a message acknowledging you missed the meeting, apologising and depending what the meeting was for offering to catch up / re org. There may be repercussions but if you start off apologetic / making things right it'll give a better impression.

This!

We’ve all been there. Best piece of advice I ever read was “everyone makes mistakes, it’s how you deal with them that matters”. Call your manager with a plan to make up whatever you’ve not done, and assurance that it was a genuine error and won’t be repeated.

I agree, contact your manager ASAP to explain, don't wait for them to contact you.

If you are an otherwise dependable person and this is a wacky one off, I wouldn't even worry about it. You're human, you made a mistake.

Yeah, if you haven't already - contact your manager. It'll be painful but better than waiting for them to contact you; and you have to show you're owning your mistake or you make it a lot worse.

I hope it's alright. It's an easy mistake to make.

This pretty much nails it. A heartfelt apology and commitment to make sure it doesn't happen again is the end of most things in employment law because an employer has to be reasonable and unless there is something big you aren't telling us, sacking you for missing a meeting that your manager picked up is not the end of the world.

Yeah as everyone has said, be proactive. Email your manager to explain and apologise.

These things do happen sometimes though, I've done similar. I was mortified and tbh manager wasn't really bothered, but then theyve done the same before which I've witnessed myself. We are all human and for those of us with very busy calendars and so much on the go at once it does happen on occasion. As long as it's not recurring I can't see it's a big deal. It does depend on part on how important the meeting was though and your role in it but you've not said it was some uber important thing that you were due to present at for example so I'm sure youre worrying too much.

No it more of a regular keeping in touch meeting with an external partner that we work with occasionally.
My manager was the one with talking points, not me, I was invited as I dealt with them more in the past.

I can't get hold of manager, I believe they're travelling so I'll send them an email instead.

I do have a history of catastrophising and panic (due to traumatif work experiences in past job) and you've all helped me calm down.

Thank you.

Our MD's virtual PA once sent 3 different parties to the office at the same time for a meeting .

And he wasn't in the office or answering phone .

She was on holiday at the time so no one could get into the diary to see what she had done.

That was fun

Be truthful, apologies to all at the meeting. find out what you missed, act suitably embarrassed, make sure you know what needs to be done to make sure it doesn't happen again.

Apologise, explain why it happened and what you'll do to make sure it won't happen again ..lesson's learned etc

It's a one off so your manager will have the measure of your character already.

Shit happens.

Stop stressing! Apologise and move on.

& charge your phone overnight 😂😂

So I got a major telling off, and told a second incident won't be tolerated which is fair I guess.

Depends what the job is that OP does, tbh. If it's just another zoomy "meeting about a meeting" then it's neither here nor there but what if they work in Social Services or Child Protection? It may have been important for them to turn up.