AIBU to expect some work to be done on my days off?

[lalatele]

i am a part time manager (3d/week) and i am really struggling...always feel like catching up from the day before...my full time assistant is brilliant when he gets the puch but useless when he does not(suffers from depression)...so sometimes he thins it is not such a big deal not to have done promotions properly for example when i think it is(it is art of a big firm)...the guy who replaces me on my days off is lovely but lately because he probably feels like i leave too many notes for him to do and sometimes leave him the oreder to do(i promise, it is not on purpose) cannot be bothered, especially when i asked him to do invoices...i phoned him today(he's self employed and covers other managers's days off but mainly my shop\0 he said that he should not do my invoice and it is my job... /AIBU to expect some respect and people to do some of my job as i am the manager?

I struggled to understand your message as there are some typos.

I think you have phrased your statement somewhat oddly, because my main thought on the last sentence is YABU as you get paid to manage so that is what people expect you to do.

Should you be able to assign work to your staff and delegate tasks, well yes absolutely, but unfortunately with that comes addressing staff issues in a sensitive but firm way and making time to speak to people rather than addressing them by sticky notes.

It also sounds like your job is not one that can easily be done in 3 days a week and your colleagues are feeling annoyed about picking up the flack.Perhaps you need to speak to your boss about how the work can realistically be shared out.

I hope I have not been too blunt, I'm trying to be helpful.

thanks rookiemaker...sorry, i made so many typos and only realised it when sent! well the reason why i write notes is because there needs to be continuous communication between me and my replacing buddy...(in terms of what happened to our patients (i am a pharmacist) or things that will need to be done on the next day....my senior assistant is mostly there but is sometimes sent to other branches and also sometimes forgets to pass the message on and i could not always be on the phone to tell people what to do (although i sometimes am on my days off which is annoying but it is quite often important issues that i forgot to write about...)...obviously i am not expecting them to do all the jobs and only give a couple of tasks each day (sometimes none) so don't think i am being too demanding...i actually normally have a very good relationship with my staff but with this senior assistant, it is difficult as he feels he should be the manager and be paid for it as he is full time (he is otherwise a wicked guy!), so there is a bit of a clash there... but do u think i should give up management? (share management would not be possible as my branch is too quiet)Has anybody had to deal with this type of situation?

Hi I was hoping someone else would wade in and offer some advice but that hasn't happened, wee tip, people much more inclined to read and post if you space out your words.

I think you need to have a proper chat with this senior assistant. I can see why he is disgruntled if he is effectively doing your job on your non working days but not getting paid for it, so you need to find a way to differentiate what you do from what he does, and if he is doing management duties make him feel good about it i.e. "development opportunity" rather than expecting him to do your job just because he is there.

It does sound as if you are finding it hard to cover your job in 3 days a week. I won't say give up because I'd kill to go down to 3 days and would find a way to make it work . You need to be very organised, I write everything down as I go along, I'm lucky because although I work 4 days a week my manager has arranged our mgmt meeting the day I return so I don't miss out on anything.

Also it sounds like a bit of a sad fact of life that in your profession you will get the odd call on your day off and I'm probably being a bit hard here, but I think you either have to live with it, increase your hours or have everything so well documented that there is no conceivable reason to need to call you. I encourage staff to text, that way I can control when I reply to them and I'm not trying to change a nappy and juggle a phone.

Finally you sound a bit stressed by it all and a bit combatitive with the other staff, try to relax and it may not be as hard as it seems now.

Good Luck