Which role would you go for?

[WifeOfMartyr]

Changed names but am a regular

I am in my 50s. I took a role at a massive pay cut in 2022 as I was promised equity in the company (along with another individual). The equity never materialised and at that point, the job market was bad and I couldn't find another role. The working conditions were amazing - I can basically do what I want, when I want within reason. However, both me and the other person who joined with me (who also took a massive pay cut) are full of bitterness about the way we were treated by the owners of the business.

In the meantime, someone else has just bought the company and is (definitely) going to put in place a share scheme but it's still not as generous as what we were promised when we started.

Out of the blue, another company has offered me a role. The working conditions are not going to be as good and the role is definitely harder but my pay will go back to where it was beforehand.

I'm slightly torn about what to do. I've also had long covid (not disclosed to employer) plus I'm going through menopause so I've had v low energy levels.

If I was a man I would jump at new role and everyone who knows me says take it. But there is a nagging at the back of my head about giving up cushy job!

I don't have a great pension due to horrendous divorce where exh bled me dry of funds so I could do with the cash. Am I just being a bit of a nervous nelly?

Do it lifes too short.

Thank you :)

So much to weigh up - how much of a difference in salary, hours, commute etc… as I’ve got older I’ve realised time is so important, as is reducing stressors.

Remember, nobody ever said on their deathbed they wish they’d spent more time at work!

Commute will be better - will cut about 20 mins out (one way)

Working hours - impossible to tell

Working conditions - bound to be worse as current job v easy I would think

I'd go for it unless working conditions will be horrific.

Them not being better doesn't necessarily mean it's going to be bad. It's all relative.

I think the fact you said if you were a man you'd go for it means you should.

I would stay.

Is the extra pay so significant that it would be worth more stress at the moment? What other changes will the new company make to your current role? It may not be the cushy number you currently have. You are clearly in demand- how likely is something else similar to come along if you stay where you are? The new job cuts off 40mins a day or nearly 3.5hrs a week! Would WFH be an option? I'd change for the reduced commute alone, but only you can weigh that up.

The flexibility and ease of your current role would be a winner for me especially with low energy levels. Is there any chance you can ask your current company for a pay rise ?

I would definitely take the new job

You say the present job is cushy, but will new job be unbearable? If reasonable, then take it.

I think current job is likely to get less cushy with new owners but almost impossible to predict the future. I think they will give me a pay rise but probably not in the order of what new job does

I should get new job offer Tuesday and then I can see exactly how much the difference will be money wise