I work in a small team of 4 women, however my boss has been away for 2 months so there has only been the three of us. I felt like the weeks flew by, with us all a bit more relaxed without her watching over us and felt like we all got on really well. However my boss has been back since Monday and today I got pulled into the office and was told that I am aggressive and unnaproachable with my colleagues and that they are scared of me and feel like they can’t ask me a question without me becoming angry. I do not feel like I am like that at all, I answer every question with patience and am never derogatory or aggressive. I may sometimes be preoccupied with something so possibly only half listening but never rude or angry. I was also told that I get very defensive (which is true if I am told I have done something wrong when I know I haven’t) and that I also turned to my colleagues and told them that I never make mistakes (NOT TRUE! I would never say that, I make mistakes and own up to them) and that I bring my home life to work when I should be leaving it at the door. She also said that the workplace is a better place when I am not there, that the atmosphere is toxic when I am around. Needless to say, I’ve been so upset all day. My boss knew a lot of things from my personal life that happened while she was away (nothing drastic, just normal office talk) which would have only told one colleague, this leads me to believe that she is the one that may have started this as she is very friendly with the boss. My colleague is a really nice girl and I thought we were friends, so that upsets me even more. My boss, however, is massively prone to over dramatising things and she likes going around picking on certain people at certain times. I am a bit at a loss as to what to do, I will speak to my colleague tomorrow and apologise if I have done anything to make her feel this way (I have done this with my other colleague today already - who denied feeling this way about me). I now feel like I can’t say anything to anyone for fear this being told to the boss again, feel anxious about going into work for fear of being told I am being aggressive and the “place is better off without you” part makes me wonder am I politely being bullied out of the job? Or should I just leave? I hand on heart don’t think I am any of these things.