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Realising my new line manager is crap- how to cope?

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New2024newname · 24/04/2024 05:58

I started a new job in a new sector several months ago. There were things which were difficult about the adjustment but overall really glad to have moved. One factor that made it all easier was my line manager was an absolute gem, someone who genuinely cared about workload and wellbeing (as well as being fantastic at her job), and was very proactive in supporting me. In her words her aim was to set me up for success - and I think she did that.

Unfortunately she left about a month ago, and my new boss is one level above her, essentially the head of our department. She’s a Mat leave cover (from another department) and seems really out of her depth and chaotic. Any work I do with her or question I ask her, it becomes clear that she’s only given it the briefest of thoughts and has a very superficial understanding of the matter at hand. When it comes to workload, she pays lip service (“sorry you’re exhausted, you shouldn’t be regularly working such long hours”) but won’t actually do anything like take work off desk. She never has time for a conversation about my development or progression, or to support me in those goals.

I don’t feel like I can be too confrontational/complainy about it because I’m still new and want to make a good impression. I’m also six weeks pregnant (adding to exhaustion), but really don’t want to tell her yet (I accept I will have to soon) because I think that would give her even more of a reason not to invest in my development. How have others coped with feeling so uninspired and unsupported by your boss? I keep telling myself it’s temporary: the permanent head of department will come back from Mat leave in about six months. But that feels like an absolute age when I hate this situation so much.

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Tumbler2121 · 24/04/2024 06:38

This has worked for me …be direct instead of hopeful.

Look at your workload and see why you have too much to do. tell your line manager that it simply cannot be done in the time and ask her to prioritise for you. Do as much as you can but do not work extra hours. Email her with updates on any work/projects that are falling behind.

this should help with your stress and gives you a good case if you have to take it further.

earlyretirement · 24/04/2024 06:51

In terms of your development could you identify a mentor to help? Or peer support if someone more experienced does your job in another department?

Temporaryanonymity · 24/04/2024 06:55

In the short term, you can manage your own development. Do some self-reflection, you can do this on a regular basis.

OakElmAsh · 24/04/2024 13:37

You'll need to manage up ... so instead of asking her to take work off your desk, do a list of your tasks and identify things that could be done by someone else. Then present those options to her, and all she has to do is say yes.

New2024newname · 24/04/2024 19:19

Thanks, lots of good ideas for me to try

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InWithPeaceOutWithStress · 25/04/2024 16:53

A passive manager gives you a good opportunity to develop as you have space to take ownership, make decisions, do things how you want to.

bctf123 · 26/04/2024 20:29

I carved her out of most daily tasks even when I was doing her job, took her out of cc. Relied on another colleague for engineering queries(his speciality). Got the sales manager to reply as I advise on escalations. Got the director to take an interest and get involved if I requested on specific and limited issues.
Also helped she wfh

Allwelcone · 27/04/2024 08:29

@bctf123 sounds like you should have got a promotion!

bctf123 · 27/04/2024 08:48

Allwelcone · 27/04/2024 08:29

@bctf123 sounds like you should have got a promotion!

That's partly why I left
I think I should have at least got a title change from order processor after 5 years. I also managed people unofficially and presided over 60% of revenue while the remainder was between 5 staff.
My pay was close to nmw. I had little savings and lived in a house with some too hairy men. I had two pt jobs for a year before realising everything was wrong and I needed to leave. A recruiter offered me 60% more but I stayed as it was a shock but it was a catalyst.
I didn't understand when they tried me to give up the pt jobs and questioned why I needed to do them. It just showed we were on different planets.
They had a crisis meeting of 4 managers and two senior staff when I gave my notice as they weren't sure exactly what I was doing, just that the sales figures were steadily increasing without customer escalations.
I also had to put up with some really difficult people who I couldn't work around

Got some outstanding praise privately from director as he was leaving on my last day.

Allwelcone · 27/04/2024 10:37

@bctf123 hoping you're in a better place now they didn't deserve you xx

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