So stressed, is it worth asking?

[Whatshouldido11]

Hello, I really need your advice as I am making myself feel so tense and sick with stress about this.
I started a new job 2 months ago, amd i really like my ckmpany and new role. I also love my manager, she is teaching me so much and is such a lovely person. I feel really good in this job.
I knew they there flexible about working hours but what I didn't realise until I started is that about half the people in my team work remotely and from different countries.
Just before my job started I found out my mother is ill and I want to go back to my country. I've been so torn because I don't want to leave my job but at the same time I can't get rid of the feeling that I want to be with my family. To make it worse, the lease on my apartment is ending next month and then I have to renew it again for a year.
I want to ask my manager if I can work remotely too but I'm so worried I will look really rude and presumptuous. At the same time, in only 2 months I feel I have contributed some great work and she has told me she is very happy with me. Also, I would say I can come back for several days every month to the office.
Ideally I would wait until the end of my probation but there is another 4 months to go and

1. that means I have to renew my lease
2. I would feel bad because if they say no then I will have wasted their time in a way

What should I do? I'm so stressed about this. I don't want to lose my job but I'm so homesick:( Am I just turning myself in knots here?

Honestly OP it depends how much you need the job.

Most companies would want you to successfully complete probation before they would allow you to work entirely remotely from a different country, I think that is pretty typical across the board so there’s a strong chance they will either say “not right now” or just point blank no, and you may then end up out of a job.

I understand and appreciate your honest thoughts, thank you. Yes, in my mind it will be 95% no. I could try and find some kind of living situation without renewing my lease to complete my probation but then om worried it will look deceitful like I just tried to perform really well so they will give me what I wanted, you know? I don't want my manager to feel like that, she's a wonderful person, outside of work I think we would be friends.

I don’t think it would look that way honestly, I wouldn’t see it as any different to for example a woman passing her probation and then falling pregnant (as at my workplace you aren’t entitled to enhanced maternity pay until you’ve passed probation). It’s not deceitful, it’s just a case of proving yourself and passing, then taking full advantage of the options available to you within your workplace. But I do think asking to work remotely from a different company only 2 months into the role is far too much too soon.

The below link should be of interest www.litrg.org.uk/international/double-taxation/working-remotely-uk-employer-while-overseas

Are they employed in the UK and working from a different location or are they employed in a different country? They're very different things (with very different tax implications for the employer and employee)