Handing in notice today, don't want to work the 4 weeks , please advise

[Excitingtimes736]

Hi guys
I've been at my place of work for 6 months. Its not working out and I want to leave.
The job isnt what i thought it would be, and i am being micromanaged which i dont like.
Also ,my mind is not 100% on the job which is not fair on them as my husband has been diagnosed with psychotic depression, I am classed as his carer, we have a lot going on and I'm very reluctant leaving him at home every day. My manager is aware of this .I am extremely stressed and full of worry all the time. I have to attend multiple appointments with him etc and he shouldn't really be left on his own.
So I have decided to hand my notice in today as I need to be at home at the moment. My notice period is 4 weeks and I don't think I will have annual leave i can use due to it being the start of the new tax year. I really need to be at home with him and really can't go into work for the next 4 weeks .
Any ideas how I can get round this? I am very stressed so could get the doctor to sign me off sick, but it's not me whose sick it's my husband, but worried that may affect new jobs. Is there any other option to leave early unpaid due to caring responsibilities?

The OPs DH has been diagnosed with phsycotic depression and shouldn't be left by himself and she is juggling this, work and multiple hospital appointments

I don't know about the OP but I would ne pretty stressed if that was me!

But I also hope you aren't a GP because if you are you should know that there should be no greater stigma around having 4 weeks off for a mental health issue than there should be for having 4 weeks off for breaking your leg.

And if you were a GP coming on here to add to the stigma about mental health issues, which might then deter someone from seeking help when they need it then that would be incredibly unprofessional and unethical.

There is no such thing as sick notes these days. They are called Fit Notes. Your GP can complete it saying if you are unfit to work or that you are fit to work within certain parameters e.g.reduced hours, no manual lifting etc .

If you have only been in the job for six months you could always leave it out of your CV, which means you would not need a reference from them.

In this case send them your notice and that you will be leaving immediately due to family circumstances.

Or go off sick because again if you don't use them as a reference your next employer won't know about it anyway.

It is no ideal to not work your notice but life happens.

Also have you passed your probation? if you are still in the probation period you should be able to give them 1 week notice.

Good luck OP
Options:

1. hand in notice and ask them to waive notice period. You won’t get paid for your notice period
2. Get signed off sick with stress. It does sound to me like you are too stressed to work / you can self certify for 1st week and then get signed off by GP beyond that. This way you get paid. This is likely your only option to get paid for your notice period but not work it.
3. if 1 or 2 don’t work, you are entitled to up to 1 weeks unpaid leave as a carer . This is a new right as of 6 Apr this year . See https://www.acas.org.uk/carers-leave

Are you sure your annual leave is in line with the government‘s financial year?

Ask adult social services to step in to support dh
Or his doctors maybe there is day service he can attend at the hospital?
Longer term you may need a solution?

I've spoken to them and they are letting me leave next Friday so all sorted. Just got to get though next week

Good result

I was about to post, please ignore PPs and speak to your management. You can mutually waive the notice period - it saves them paying your accrued annual leave etc so it's beneficial on both sides. It's usually best to have an off the record convo.

Explain your situation and asked to be released from the notice period or given unpaid compassionate leave. If that doesn't work it sounds like you will be at breaking point and may well get signed off. I doubt t that stress relating to your husbamds new diagnosis would impact any future jobs at all

Can you not just do a weeks notice? Isn’t that the minimum based on how long you’ve been there? Although I gave about 12 hours when I left my workplace and no repercussions from anyone

I'm so glad they've been reasonable. Is there anyone that can support your husband for the next week?

It wouldn't . That's a standard question I'm afraid .

Hopefully if you can explain the situation to any prospective future employers, if they are reasonable, it should be OK.

I have given references for people where the prospective employer provided a form just asking for factual information . One of the things they asked was about sickness record. But as an interviewer if the reason was explained, it wouldn't put me off.

Ah - seen your update - glad it's sorted - good luck for everything x