Back on Monday and getting that sinking feeling...

[bb99]

Always knew I had to go back FT and have had nearly the full year

BUT am just struggling today - stupid as it's the last few days at home with ds.

Missed a settling in session at the nursury yesterday as so many staff are off due to a sickness bug (joy of joys)

Have had toddlers in nursury before but not babies (OK he's nearly a year and we've had first steps and teeth so I know I'm VERY lucky to have had the time) BUT am having a major wobble this morning.

Here in tears but i know it won't be that bad, will it?

Words of success please, just letting off steam...

Going out to find a fun displacement activity now...maybe i'll mug a few politicians or have a rant at a few inappropriately parked drivers

this is the worst part IME

Enjoy these last few days and it won't be as bad as you think

I went back when DS was 6 months old and the anticipation was HORRENDOUS and the actual going back was FINE!

be kind to yourself and your DS - give it 3 months to get yourselves into a routine and remember pack your bags the nights before and get everyone's clothes out as well

thanks for reply RS

Having a bit of a crappy time with settling in sessions and the Nursery doesn't seem that good at being re assuring at the moment

Hope it will be fine

Hi bb99, I went back to work FT when my son was 10 months old, he is now 2. At first i was in tears, didint want to leave him but once i closed the door and got on the train into work i was fine. Believe it or not the hardest thing for me was walking with out a pushchair, my arms felt like they wern't mine..lol!!

Now we have a great routine, he loves going to the childminders (sometimes he cries when he has to come home)and he looks forward to having mummy & daddy time at the weekends. I try always do something special with him although it probably make me feel less guilty about leaving him.

Good luck to you and i hope you find a routine that works well. x

Hi BB99, I am due back to work in 3 weeks after nearly a year off. My DS is 8mo, and wehave our settling in sessions at nursery next week - I have been spending the night feeds crying on his sleeping head .

I hope it all goes smoothly and as easily as possible for both of you!

Can you phone the nursery to make sure the baby is well?

I know its not the same, but it really helps if the nursey are friendly and you feel you can phone every hour or so.

My childminder was fantastic, she said I could phone anytime. If I needed them minding at short notice it wasn't a problem. If i wanted an overnight babysitter for nights out at work she would love to have them.

This really helped me-as i felt it was a second home for my children. She treated my kids as if they were her own.

Yes, should all be OK, I think he just has a sixth sense about when I'm turning up to take him home and turns on the waterworks!!

EF - hope all goes well for you too!