Sorry for the long post, I'm just hoping for a bit of reassurance and advice if possible.
I've been in my job a long time and came back from maternity leave with my second DC in late August 2022, dropping to PT. Whilst I'd been away my boss had left and I came back to a new boss. My previous boss had been very relaxed and pretty much left the team to crack on with our work (we are all WFH IT workers), which I was happy with although there were times when I got stuck I'd have appreciated more input from him.
My new boss was friendly initially; I immediately got the vibe that she wanted a more structured team (sensible) and more meetings were added (including a daily catch up) and we had to cc her into every email for accountability. For the rest of that year and into the beginning of 2023 that worked okay, although I did find the constant need to check everything with her a bit tiresome.
Then my mum got sick and although my dad was doing the majority of the handling, I had to take some leave to help him out and support him and it put a bit of a strain on me and I took my eye off the ball a bit in terms of work dedication. Bearing in mind that at this point in Jun 2023 I also had an ASN 4.5 year old and almost 2 year old at home.
One of my tasks was to help with a new website but I made a mistake with the code (I'm not a coder, it was an additional thing I'd never done before) which meant they lost 2 days of data, which the developer told me wasn't a big deal as it was a soft launch so hadn't been marketed yet so it was really only test internal data.
My new line manager however took a very poor view of this and made a big show and dance of how one of my other team members "fixed" it for me. After that she became very micro managing with me, I felt like she put on a mask with me more than with the other team members and whenever I tried to join in with any of the general non work chat she would then interrupt and make it about work again or terminate the call. Yet my other team mates could talk about their pets or holidays and she wouldn't do that.
One of my team members noticed and pinged me asking if I was ok but I didn't want to open up too much about the boss so just spoke about my mum and my stress at home. I'm glad I had him but the other two just zoned me out, and I felt a bit hurt. As I'm PT and they are FT our updates felt quite stacked up against me and I started to doubt myself more.
Then suddenly a week after I'd had to take annual leave in a hurry due to a sickness bug my boss put a meeting in for us to discuss putting me on a work plan. I didn't know what she meant, she explained I had to send her a full list and accountability in terms of hours and tasks that I did in a spreadsheet, leave out training and cpd and take it from there. So I did that then during the meeting she told me I'd not managed to account for at least 8 hours and I said well that's for training, you told me to leave it out and she disagreed.
So I then started doing extra work for my other team mate, he mentioned me in our team catch ups that I was doing great (thank goodness for him), but she never reacted to that and in a project I was involved in with a different team we all got an award nomination. I mentioned this in our one-to-one and my line manager didn't congratulate me, only said well at least it went better than the other website launch.
I was hurt but didn't say anything, would a well done have been such a terrible thing to say? Anyway after that first initial work plan meeting nothing else has been mentioned, all future work plan related meetings have been deleted from the calendar and now I'm collaborating with a different (better) project team and I'm no longer directly managed by her. I will however be going back at the end of the project and I'm dreading it. This new manager has shown me how it should be as I feel relaxed, we all do our tasks, have a bit of banter and there are no issues (so far).
Should I get clarification from my manager on why she did this or just leave it? I will need to work with her again once this project finishes but I've heard from my nice team mate that apparently all the stuff I was working on has been removed from the overall objectives and it sounds as if there won't be much to do. I'm worried that will be used as more of an excuse to sideline me.