How to cope - things turned sour after resignation

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Things have turned really sour after I've resigned. The notice period is very long for my level of seniority and pay and I don't know how I'm going to cope.

During my resignation process there has been an accusatory tone towards me. It feels very unfriendly.

I've worked really hard at my job and have been well liked so I have no idea why it's ended up like this.

What's happening ? Can you give any details of size of company ? Do you have a separate HR ?

Is anything being put in wiring ?

Writing** sorry typo

I have no idea why it's ended up like this. *
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It's weird isn't it. I've experienced many people leave my job over the years and the attitude towards them during their notice period/after they've left is awful.

I'm sorry you're going through that OP. How long is the notice period?

How long do you have to sit it out? Sounds tough…

Much sympathy. I am working my notice and things have been tough for some time (which is why I am leaving).
I had a contractual notice period of 6m and my boss was wanting me to work most of it, which I couldn't bear. Had to go to the head of HR but they did agree a significantly shorter period which has been a big relief.
5 weeks today... 😟

People only care about you while you are getting the job done. Once you decide to leave they don't care about you anymore. Simple.
It's why you shouldn't be loyal to a company.

Honestly bright breezy responses and being ultra professional is your friend here. In effect they are sulking and that's normally attention seeking. Don't give ot them and they will often stop.

They could at least wait until you're out of the door before blaming you for every single error that anyone in any department makes! I would honestly just detach mentally. Work your contracted hours, and no more. Try and create paper trails so it's easier to look back - for you or your replacement - to try and protect yourself from the blame game. Try and get all your annual leave taken rather than paid. If it gets unbearable you could always get signed off sick - even having that up your sleeve might make you feel in control.

I'm resigning myself on Monday and fully expecting to become the new scapegoat because that's just what it's like unfortunately. Really feel your pain.

Fuck em. Take some time off sick and or go AWOL for hours at a time.

Detach yourself emotionally and count down the days.

In the same boat here - I’ve been asked to stay on to help them find my replacement so don’t even have a defined notice now…. It’s likely to be long though.

The team below me are supportive but above /alongside have their knives out.

Commenting to follow for advice!

My notice period is 3 months. The first few days was really tough going in but now I'm going on with my head held high. I haven't done anything wrong, they are the ones acting strangely. I've also heard of other excellent staff having similar experiences leaving. The only thing I'm worried about is my reference for future jobs...

A lot of managers get like this when a staff member resigns. They take it as a personal affront when someone decides to leave the organisation.

I'm dreading this when it comes time to leave my workplace as I have a notice period of 6 months 😬😬😬

As suggested, just aim to be bright and breezy, fake it till you make it, type behaviour and try to rise above it (difficult, I know).

Tell the office gossip that you might withdraw your resignation but you're not sure...

Yes, I was the cause of all the companies problems after I left. It eventually led to the enforced redundancy of a junior colleague who worked with me. So unfair on him.

Similar story here, op. I’ve been given the same advice: detach emotionally and count down the days.