Is anyone else stuck in a job they hate?

[ThisHonestQuail]

I really really hate it and have done since I started 2 years ago 😭 I have been actively looking for another job in my sector for a year or so but there’s just nothing suitable. It just makes me so miserable every day and my anxiety is sky high every morning before I log on and evening when I go to bed.

I would love to just quit and take office temp jobs etc for a bit but I can’t really afford the salary drop!

So I’m stuck here. How do you get on with it in the meantime?? I thought about putting in a flexible working request to drop some hours, but worried that will just condense the stress!

Yes - I literally hate the managers where I work. Toxic, micromanaging, don’t listen to any advice and then complain when things go wrong. Awful really.
The job itself I like, and my colleagues are lovely.
The reason I stay is it’s wfh position, which I started off needing for other reasons, but now recognise I could never get through 8 hours a day in their company. It’s the only reason I haven’t walked.

Some days I do and some days not. This week has been really challenging. It's low paid and the clients have been so difficult. Today I just felt like walking out, but I did that in my last job. Think I need a career change !

I am! And I am desperately looking for another job just now. I was in tears tonight thinking about it. It’s so toxic where I work I had 3 months of last year due to my mental health and at the moment I don’t even really have a defined role. My direct manager is horrible any time I talk to her it’s twisted back as a criticism, she micromanages constantly. She plays favourites telling me off like a child for something yet others are blatantly doing the same thing. It grinds you down and I’m so worn out.

I have a time frame in mind that if I haven’t secured another job I am going to resign.

I'm retired now but when I was younger and before I married I was bored with my job and hated the people I worked with. My BF (now DH) eventually suggested I change career totally. Fortunately it didn't impact me too badly financially as I managed to find a retraining programme within the organisation. It worked out well.

Are you stuck because you are the main bill payer or because you are single? If you have a working husband, keep changing jobs until you fins something more pleasant.

Me! I’m school support staff and it’s just broken me . The micromanaging, endless observations, endless criticism , stretched in all directions trying to support SEND children as well as my actual role, some staff are very tricky to work with being rude and undermining.

I was good at my job and  in the past worked  with lovely teachers who really appreciated me.   

Now my anxiety is out of control, it’s making me ill. and I just want to walk away. Not helped bring mid 50s and menopausal….

We can afford for me not to work but I need my own money. What do I do ? I feel trapped and I can think is to get signed off to give me some breathing space. I aim to resign in July regardless but no idea what I can do .

I resigned last week with no job to go to. My DD actually cheered when I told her, despite knowing it would be harder till I found something.

Thankfully I landed a “dream job” today, but nothing is worth making yourself miserable over. Life’s too short ❤️

Me! I hate my new job, people are nice but I hate the job so much :( I only started there in January so feel a bit stuck….. got a day off today but already dreading tomorrow!

Yes! And I'm only part time. It's like a blimmin military camp! Forever searching for a new job suitable to work around school holidays and hours but no such luck!

Same here. Like the job. The culture, management, support, training is awful. Colleagues are miserable and mud slinging and a couple of immature gossipers tbh. The whole thing is dehumanising.

Tbh last couple of months I’ve really just distanced myself from peopling or office politics- I’ve gone as far as to leave desk booking so late Ibe had a genuine excuse to not sit with my team and sat elsewhere. I’ve kept conversation etc really bland and minimal. I’ve just really started concentrating on doing the job, communicating important stuff via teams. 2 days of mine is wfh so I book a gym glass/ run or something in my lunch hours so I can at least feel the benefit of it. I then just super compartmentalise and make sure I’m spending time with nice people and have nice plans on my off days . I’ve stopped going to socials at evenings/ weekends.

I hate the toxic culture - mostly one person but senior directors thinks she’s amazing (because she tells them and they believe her). I’m staying due to limited options in the area, good salary, and they’re funding a course I’m on. Once my course is complete I’ll review options. In the mean time, toxic bitch’s comments wash off me - I pretend I don’t notice her comments. She thinks I’m stupid.

I do my job but I am not shining right now. Competently doing my job but that’s it. I go home at 5pm and switch to focusing on anything non work related. Live for the weekends and holidays.

Hate where I work but I live rurally and jobs are few and far between. I'm the main breadwinner and the pressure to keep food on the table is intense.

On the other hand I am caring for my mum who has Alzheimer's and I saw her break her mental health over a toxic workplace when I was a kid. I often wonder if her Alzheimer's is partly linked to the misery of her working life.

Life really is too short to be unhappy.

Oh god same.. I've been at the same company for 14 years now and I was only planning on being there temporarily. I'm not learning anything in my role and every year is the same as the one before. I'm trying to retrain in something totally different but it's hard and very tiring. My motivation is on the floor right now, and I'm not young anymore. I can't even type a word properly as I can hardly be motivated to type. I used to work in radio and made the decision to leave for this, more secure role, any my god do I miss it. I don't know how I would get back to that career now. Gah, it's all so hard, it's.also been harder to take risks recently because of cost of living.