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Spoken to for stepping on manager's toes

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Fussyfidget · 06/03/2024 19:55

I've been spoken to twice in the last fortnight by my boss for stepping on her toes. More in an irritated way than an actual formal talking to and I know that once you irritate her, it tends to stick.

She has not responded to my emails and requests several times in the last couple of months and I have varied my ways of contacting her. She rarely emails back, rarely answers her phone, rarely looks at her messages from me.

As a result, I took it upon myself to just use my initiative, however now she's annoyed about me making decisions without going to her first. She has voiced this to another member of staff and was also offhand with me about another incident during a meeting this week. I feel like I can't win. Obviously part of me wants to bluntly say... well you never ever respond or answer or call me back but it may not be worthwhile as it could make things a bit sour for me at work.

She clearly has favourites who I'm sure she answers to more often than me. It's really annoyed me because I can't win.

What's the answer?

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ReturnfromtheStars · 06/03/2024 20:22

Just add a line to your emails to say no reply means confirmation from her. That way at least you cover your back.

IronNeonClasp · 07/03/2024 17:28

Is this hybrid working or are you in the office? Can you arrange a meeting in person with her? Get to the bottom of the issue/s. Its totally inappropriate and soul destroying her not replying to you so get to the cause of her issue.

That’s what I would do anyway (but I’m old!)

ThisHonestQuail · 07/03/2024 17:32

Perhaps if you phrase it as “I assume you are happy with ABC and so will do XYZ this afternoon/tomorrow/next week. If not, please let me know before then.” then it puts it on her to answer.

PangolinPan · 07/03/2024 17:36

Can you book time in her calendar to go over your questions? I'm an EA and my principal doesn't look at emails from me but pretty much always picks up when I call on Teams.

NotSoBetty · 07/03/2024 17:37

Goodness, how do such rude people, with such awful people skills become managers! You shouldn’t have to work in an environments like that. Perhaps you could contact HR, and say that you not being managed but instead you are being ignored?

Soccermumamir · 07/03/2024 18:33

Personally I wouldn't out up with her and talk to her manager

Waffleson · 08/03/2024 14:52

Definitely speak to her. I had an issue like this and it turned out there was an error when my email was set up and my managers emails to me weren't getting through.

Redpencil99 · 10/03/2024 16:41

ReturnfromtheStars · 06/03/2024 20:22

Just add a line to your emails to say no reply means confirmation from her. That way at least you cover your back.

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