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Feeling pigeon holed and side lined

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malificent7 · 01/03/2024 18:21

Nhs worker. Partly my fault but am keen to shine. How do I break the mould?
I was referred to occupational health as I had a period of anxiety and made a few mistakes as a result. Noone got hurt but I was anxious about dh healthscare. Thankfully ok.
My manager said I panick when things get really tough. I don't most of the time I am calm but she only picks up on the couole of times when I did " panick" under extreme pressure and now assumes I always do that. How can I get her to acknowledge the times when I perform really well under pressure?
She also said about 8 months ago that I lack confidence. My confidence has grown dramatically.
I feel she is atuck in the oast.
Additionally, a colleague who likes to boss me about has been given supervisory responsibilities. Ti be fair she is good but sge has less experience than me.
I just don't progress at work and i'm upset about it...willing to learn and change.

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freezefade · 01/03/2024 18:31

Time, consistency, patience.

Ti be fair she is good but sge has less experience than me.

Don't bring up stuff like this as it'll make you look like you have a chip on your shoulder.

She also said about 8 months ago that I lack confidence. My confidence has grown dramatically.

She said it 8 months ago. You're the one ruminating about it now - you're the one who seems stuck in the past. I think you need to let it go and move on.

malificent7 · 01/03/2024 18:59

Sorry for typos.
Well the problem is that it has implications for me NOW!
For example, bossy colleague now feels she can manage me a bit but tbh I have more knowledge.
I have stated that I am interested in learning new skills but other colleagues have got that training instead.
So whilst I would love to put it in the past and move on, it is affecting me now....hence the feeling of being pigeon holed.

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malificent7 · 01/03/2024 19:01

And I wouldn't bring up stuff about the colleague but it is hard being bossed around by someone who is on the same level.

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malificent7 · 02/03/2024 08:08

After a not very good night sleep I have decided that the bossy colleague is a nightmare. She is good at her supervisory role in that she is very bossy.
For example, I checked something with a patient. She was watching..She then checked the same thing.like she dosn't trust me. I asked same patient to fill out said form. She grabbed said form and went through it with him like he was 5. It's undermining and I'm fed up.

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malificent7 · 02/03/2024 08:09

But please some advice on how to dea with it.

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malificent7 · 02/03/2024 08:09

Deal*

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socks1107 · 02/03/2024 08:14

From experience in the nhs when things get like this it's time to move on, change department.
There is a free nhs England leadership course the Edward Jenner programme, worth a look to start some training

malificent7 · 02/03/2024 08:28

Thank you. I will look into this. I take it that this is not uncommon. It's a shame really. Maybe I am seen as an easy target as I am not super bossy and quietly get on with my job. I just want to be left alone and this person sees me as an easy target.
I really like this hospital and I don't want one nightmare woman to drive me out tbh.

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malificent7 · 02/03/2024 17:01

Anyone else?..feeling very low today.

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