Bit of background… I work in a large business, really good culture where feedback is encouraged. I work closely with two men similar age to me, nice guys and have always thought I got on with them well, we work well together as a team and I’ve had recent feedback as part of my performance review from both these guys that I’m good to work with and do a good job.
We are all friendly and there’s always a bit of chat about our kids etc and light hearted banter but always really professional. We have access to an instant messaging which is often used to ask questions and also for sending memes etc. to each other but neither of them have ever had mouthed the other one to me. So I’d like to think we were work ‘mates’ although not friends if that makes sense.
A few days ago I was sat in a room with both of them having a face to face meeting when I notice one of them typing something and then the other one looked at his laptop and then tried to conceal a smile/ smirk.
I’m 99% sure they were messaging about me.
So my question is, do I just try and move on and continue to act as though it never happened? Or do I approach one or both to get an indication of whether they are finding me annoying/ what I have done wrong? If I don’t know what they are thinking then I don’t know if it’s me that needs to do something differently or just them being dicks.
I’m really hurt and questioning my own approach to work :(