I have worked in my current firm for over 6 years, and over 4 years in my current team. I am the longest team member.
My line manager is leaving the firm next month, and I've experienced this before there and my role in the team was to keep it together / step in as needed etc, and I've worked countless extra hours for the past 4 years and given up my "life" to help everyone as needed in my job, always available when needed and don't like letting people down etc.
Recently with my boss leaving everyone is suddenly switching personality many of these team members haven't experienced this type of change before here as it's quite a junior in length of service team. 2 people are the grade above me, and always asking me for help, but now suddenly it's like they are taking my ideas, and putting them out as their own. Feel like I've helped them so much, and now everyone is standing on me.
Then I have one team member who I was "friends" with who is the grade below me, and they've recently tried to throw me under the bus to management, and now I feel I can't even do anything because I feel like I am being watched. Then they are now kissing up to those on the grade above (I hope this makes sense).
Basically I feel like I have done alot and given up my life really, and feel like everyone has used me for their own gain and I am stuck where I am. I have been told if I want promo it's going to take at least another 2 years due to the promotion process. I am just starting to feel really stuck, and like I had a voice to now I can't even crack a joke without feeling watched. I don't chat to anyone anymore or anything, I feel kind of pushed out.
I am just trying to decide if maybe my time at the company has come to an end, and it's time for me to move on. Conscious that it's a rubbish job market currently, and I have a good redundancy package where I am and a good office / wfh balance, also just got a £5k pay rise to put me onto an OK salary -although also got told I won't get a pay rise now for about 2 years.
Just trying to work out what I am staying for - maybe I should try and act like the junior staff member I am being treated like now and just say "I don't know" and stop helping - it's not in my nature though. Even my current boss who is leaving has warned me to stop being a door mat and be careful of snakes, I feel like he is warning me he can see it too.