High stress probation extension

[majorkira]

Currently on probation extension which ends on 26th nothing wrong with work quality but concerns over diary management
I am second guessing myself all the time at the moment where I wouldn't have before.
My anxiety is through the roof- I love my job and it was a shock when it was extended. Really was not expecting it
To be honest I'm not sure how much more I can continue feeling this uncertain over my probation- currently being micro managed massively- I have to inform manager every day of my diary and what I've been doing.
This will devastate me to lose this job- its a dream role and i am told how good i am bar concerns over my diary.
i regret ever mentioning my diary at a routine review at month 4 of six months probation.
Mentally i am preparing for the inevitable but i know it will take a long time to get over it.
As a single parent I'm petrified I have no savings

Concerns over diary management could mean anything. What are you struggling with and what have you done about it?

If this is an identified issue then it isn't micromanaging to have daily sessions to support you in managing the problem. If they thought it wasn't with the effort, you'd have been gone instead of getting an extension.

What are the concerns about your diary management?

For it to be a shock to you that your probation was to be extended is bad by your employer. It should never be a shock as they should have raised any issues and offered support to help you before the probation ends.
what was agreed when your probation was extended in terms of how to get your diary management to the standard needed? Ie did they discuss further training? Discuss where you may feel you are struggling? Looked at a mentor? Resources etc? Have you felt supported or been given any regular feedback? Of course you’re going to second guess yourself if you don’t receive any feedback good or bad.
I’d also make sure you are looking ar resources yourself to demonstrate your efforts. Fingers crossed for you! As someone else said- they wouldn’t likely extend if they didn’t think it was worth it.

@Whatyoutalkingabouteh The OP said that they struggled with this aspect and raised it at 4 months... so probably not a surprise? And they are getting daily reviews with a manager to support diary management. Although in still not clear what aspect of diary management we are talking about.

Could you view the micromanagement as 'intensive support' in that they have chosen instead of getting rid of you during probation (which is not hard for them) they have put extra time and effort into helping you with an area of your work that you are struggling with.

I would also find it annoying and stressful but it may be there are genuinely trying to model to you how to improve this particular aspect of your work so that you can move forward past probation into being confident in all areas of the job.