Overwhelmed

[Gemjoy]

IF you get upset and Overwhelmed and feel genuinely anxious about being at work, you decide to go home is this OK?

As long as you have cleared it with the manager I guess so.

Deputy manager knew how I was feeling left me to compose myself then I told member of staff I was going, now im made to feel like they don't care how overwhelming work pressure is and don't want to listen to my problems i even asked for reduced hours, I need to send it to boss as a request but I'm not hopefully anything will change, im feeling a bit cornered tbh

But you didn't clear it with your manager. You said you were feeling overwhelmed (I guess) and then told another member of staff you were leaving who wasn't authorised to say yes or no.

I think you put that person in a difficult position.

Ask for the reduced hours, you won't know the response until you do. If they refuse it, look at why and plan your next move.

If it’s that bad go and see your GP and get signed off for a few weeks

Was it an unusual incident that overwhelmed you so much that you felt you had to go home? If so, then I'd go back in and ask for a meeting so that you can review the incident and agree how it's handled next time.

If it was purely workload, then maybe you need to get signed off sick? And then be proactive about asking for a meeting to address the amount you're being expected to take on.

Either way, approach it professionally and constructively. A decent manager would respect you for that.

Member of staff actually said go im here, it's OK, I really regret the whole situation tbh i had a panic attack talking to the deputy manager who was then called away, I just felt I've got to take myself away from the situation, I have up and down days and I have thought about going to the doctors, I honestly don't feel supported or listened to and so unhappy in my job.

Has anyone ever been in a similar situation?

I couldn't have left without a manager say so but maybe it depends on your workplace hierarchy. Yes, I've expressed feeling terribly at work to another level colleague but I wouldn't leave without following proper channels

It sounds like you weren't actually authorised to leave?

I think you need to talk to your GP asap and get some help. And then talk to work (your actual manager) and explain to them what happened and what steps you're taking to move forward i.e. following the advice of your GP (whatever that is).

@Gemjoy to me even if another worker says ill stay you can go, its still better to have it run by the boss / assistant manager

Can you go to the doctor and get some chill pills? Maybe have a break too and get some therapy?

As others have said, in most workplaces, you have to make a reasonable effort to clear this with your line manager (or someone else in management) before leaving.

If you didn't technically do this, it doesn't need to be the end of the world, but you do need to speak to your line manager and to your GP to try to sort things out.

Good luck OP, I hope you feel better soon.

I realise i should have asked to leave, I couldn't see myself concentrating on any work and I went home feeling emotionally exhausted and slept most if the day then I messaged my boss and explained why I left and honestly felt so relieved.

When are you next due in work? Can you book a meeting with your manager to discuss how they're going to support you to not get this overwhelmed? A formal meeting, not just a chat when you pass each other in the corridor.

You can't risk this happening again. Both for your own wellbeing, as well as your reputation and job security.

Whilst your employer has a duty of care, and should be compassionate in general to a colleague in distress, this isn’t what they are there to do. You need to take responsibility for your own health, explain what is causing you stress and have a calm discussion with them about the practical steps you might both be able to take. At the same time you need to seek medical help.

You need to speak to your GP. Whether you get signed off or a prescription for something that could help, you've drawn a line that says "it's too much for me, I know I acted out of character and I'm doing something about it" and then address what is the cause of the overwhelm.

You may have technically broken policy but you've demonstrated mitigating circumstances. That's how I've seen it work before.

Good luck getting a long term resolution. Sometimes the best solution is a fresh start elsewhere if you can.