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Feeling down about my job

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SaintJulian · 31/01/2024 10:09

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I've been in my job 4 months.
It's a similar job to those I've had over the past 20 years.
I should be able to do it standing on my head but I can't.

I've been making mistakes and forgetting stuff, no matter how hard I try.
It's a client facing role and I usually see 6 clients a day (hours are 7 a day).
There is a phenomenal amount of admin to do but everyone else appears to manage.

The reality is, I think, that people work more than 7 hours a day. I've heard people talk about logging on at weekends to catch up. I do more than 7 hours most days but draw the line at weekends.

I feel that people are talking about me. I haven't really made any good relationships with colleagues (this is unusual for me - I've got close friends that I met at work 20 years ago). I feel quite isolated there and have now given up trying to get to know people.

I am nearly 55 and menopausal. I've also got some additional health problems which make me tired (& I'm overweight).

I feel I just need to leave and find a job with less stress. I will have to take a substantial pay cut.

Today I am off sick. I think I've got a throat infection as I can barely swallow.
I let my manager know and a colleague early this morning that I wouldn't be in today.

Usually when someone is off sick a message goes on our Teams chat to tell the team.
There's nothing about me being off sick today (I have checked). It makes me feel it doesn't matter if I'm there or not.

I'm genuinely doing my best for the clients but I don't think it's doing me any good at all, physically or mentally.

This is just a moan really. I know I just need to move on. But it's hard to acknowledge that for some reason I can't do it anymore.
Past it?

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littleteapot86 · 31/01/2024 10:11

I don't think you're past it at all it just sounds like a really uncaring work environment. 6/7 hours every day client facing is also very draining (I'm 37 and would find this hard!!)

SaintJulian · 31/01/2024 10:17

Thanks @littleteapot86 I appreciate some supporting words!
I think I have a lot to offer still but I'm just not able (or willing TBH) to work at the pace they do.

It's weird. My manager seems really nice but the atmosphere is quite competitive (although it's public sector) and 'every person for themselves' which I haven't come across before in this sort of work.

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littleteapot86 · 31/01/2024 10:21

Such a shame the environment clearly has you questioning your abilities. It's the environment that has changed not you! Of course menopause could have a part to play but I think it's probably a tiny part of the picture here. Is there any possibility you could move to a different team?

SaintJulian · 31/01/2024 10:23

No not really. The team I'm in is the only one that does the work I do.
I have a long commute which doesn't help my tiredness so the answer is to get a job closer to home, which will save money on travel and will mean I can afford to take a lower salary.
I think the only thing stopping me is my pride!

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