There is a part of my casual job which I want to stop doing but my DH thinks it will bring trouble if I do.
The background: Over 4 years ago we relocated for DH's job and we have work-provided accommodation. The owner of the company he works for has several companies. I have continued to do my work (self-employed) remotely from here. I made the mistake of doing too good a job when I was asked to help with something for another of his companies and since then he has begun to pay me for work here and there for several of his different companies.
One of the bits of work has led to me falling into place as a manager - which I found out in a video meeting with a supplier when I was introduced as being the one in charge of that small company. But I really do not enjoy this work. It is beyond my control that a large portion of it is of a last-minute nature, despite my requests for penalties to be imposed when the work ends up being last minute. The worst is because of the last-minute nature it ends up taking over several days from my own self-employed work and it gives me a lot of stress which often leads to me battling with feeling overwhelmed.
I don't mind the work I do for his other companies, and it is more compatible with my own work due to the steady nature of it so I want to continue with that.
I have already suggested last week that I need to step back from the last-minute company with the owner's suggestion being I let my colleague do the bulk of the work and I just have to "take 20 minutes" to double-check it all. But I'm not confident this will be the case. I feel life is too short to spend my time on work I don't enjoy.
The challenge is the owner takes things personally and has a mentality of people are out to get him. My DH thinks if I resign from that one company he will stop asking me to do work for any of the other companies and get the impression I quit easily (I have my own work which I can build back up so losing the income from him doesn't scare me too much) but more importantly, DH's job could suffer and the offer of us getting a bigger house in the next year could be rescinded (we plan to start TTC later this year and our current home is a small one bedroom unit, it's fine for just the 2 of us but it would be a struggle with a baby). Worst case scenario, it could cost my DH his job if he decides not to renew his contract. DH also thinks I should stick at it and see how this stepped-back version works out as the extra income is helping our savings and of course, having a child isn't cheap.
We have to live on site for DH's job so getting our own bigger house isn't an option whilst he still has his job - which he loves his job.
We are not in the UK if any of this setup sounds unusual, it's quite normal here.
Now do I listen to my heart and write a resignation letter, or do I listen to my husband and try to keep going for a bit longer?