Should I tell new employer my mum has terminal cancer?

[toomanyworries]

I started a new job a few weeks ago in a school, that is pretty short staffed. They are currently recruiting additional staff members so hopefully this soon improves.

My mother was diagnosed with cancer in August and has been given a terminal diagnosis - she could potentially live on for a year but that is incredibly optimistic and it is likely that she will die within the next 6 months.

I did not disclose any of this information at the interview or since starting the job and I am now feeling incredibly dishonest as I know that I am likely going to need time off when my mother's health declines further or when she passes away. This time off will be unpaid if it happens within the next 6 months, but I know that any absence will have a big impact on staffing.

Should I give them a heads up of my situation now or just let them know if or when something happens? I am incredibly close to my mum so it is a really difficult time - definitely not the best time to have started a new job but that was beyond my control.

Don't feel bad about not disclosing. The timings are far from certain (and could be slap in the school holidays and have no impact on your working life).

it's a horrible time for you

I think it might be worth telling work that your DMum has cancer and that you've recently learned that it is terminal. That way they are forewarned, and I hope will be supportive

As an hr specialist I would advise to tell them. Not only do you need support but they can also put some plans in place in case you need time off suddenly. If they have an employee assistance programme do make use of it if you need someone to talk to x

I wouldn’t
anyone can suddenly need time off

I'd tell them. I bet you'll find them supportive and understanding. Sorry for you and your mum 💐

I think the best answer would be to do what you think is right for you. If you feel bad about not saying anything, then that isn't helpful to you/ So tell them if that is the case.