Resigning to become SAHP

[MrsMyreton]

Hello,

I am looking for any advice or experiences on resigning from a senior management role to become a SAHP.

I suppose I am worried I will 'let them down' or that my line manager who has invested in me (to an extent) will be disappointed. I will have a three month notice period so would like to make it as pleasant as possible with no bad feelings...

Has anyone had a similar experience? Any recommendations on how I approach the conversation please?

Caveating this post by saying I have been a SAHP before so know what I'm letting myself in for also very aware how lucky I am to be able to do this in current climate.

If it's relevant, I've been with the org for 15 years and in current post for 5.

Thank you!

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Just tell them? It’s no different to resigning for any other reason from their end.

I resigned with same length as yours as it was just too stressful to work full time in my job and have a toddler. It was really difficult to make that final decision but once I did I just gave my notice and when directors spoke to me I just said I need to be home with my kid while she is so young. They wished me well and told me to let them know if/when I am looking for work again. That's it.

I've just resigned with the same notice period from a senior job, after a very long time in the same company. I'm styling it as a career break as I don't have a job to go to, and am not going to look until October earliest (but am going to finish my MBA and do some other studying potentially).
My boss has been shocked and a bit arsey - but they are why I'm going, so I'm not worried. I feel bad about my team being left short, but I know that the company would drain every drop of blood from me with no guilt, so have to do the right thing for me.

Wouldn’t give it a second thought. You’re leaving- it’s your decision and what you do after you leave a job is no one’s businesss. If you don’t want to stay SAHM- just say taking some time out to decide on your next step.

Thank you everyone - I suppose part of my anxiety around this is knowing how other ex colleagues who have been in my role have been spoken about after they have left - which was because of its challenging workload (there have been a few!). Part of me doesn't want to fall into the bucket of 'being blamed' or 'oh that must have been Mrs Myreton she was useless' which is often the way others are discussed.

I need to just decide if this is a Friday conversation or a Monday one I think!

Thanks again, hearing the experience of others is helpful.

I don’t understand your logic. Why you’re resigning is irrelevant to anyone other than you. Colleagues may well think you’re misguided to make yourself economically dependent, but you can’t control that, any more than previous people in your role could control what was said about them after they quit.

I think the moment you are out the door the worries about them talking about you will have faded away OP. Make it a Friday conversation so that you can decompress over the weekend

I’d just get it done, waiting the weekend won’t make anything easier.

If it’s a toxic workplace with a gossiping culture they’re say things about you irrespective of your reason for leaving.

Do it today and then you can wake up tomorrow knowing it’s done and you’re free.

Resign face to face if possible.
Expect a poor reaction - after all, you've been thinking about this for a while, and it's brand new news for your boss.
Ask if they would like you to book in a meeting to discuss your priorities before you leave.
As you're not going elsewhere, they're unlikely to put you on gardening leave.

And do it today:

1- so you don't have it hanging over you all weekend
2 - so they have the weekend to absorb the news, and next week is a fresh start with this clear.

Good luck.
I suspect they wouldn’t be too upset for too long if they had to make you redundant.

I think the moment you are out the door the worries about them talking about you will have faded away

This^
You're overthinking how much you're going to be bothered about this in the future.
Have the (short) conversation today at same time as putting in writing your last working day will be X

You’ve been in the role for five years and you plan to work your full three notice period, I don’t think you have anything to feel bad about!

The toxic colleagues will be toxic whether you stay or go. I had a manager who would criticise literally everyone after they left the company, it’s just what she did and I judged her for it but not the people she was bitching about.