Work Stress

[Leesa394]

Hello everyone, I would be grateful for your help.

I invited a colleague to my wedding who I had found to be talking behind my back. I was oblivious to this for some time. She would talk ill about other colleagues to me and tell me that they're talking ill of me. I would ignore this. However, when we would all be present together, she would talk to them and completely ignore me. Her tone would also change towards me.

After hearing a lot of things that she has said about me, I decided to go and talk to her. I left things positively and told her its all fine and I just thought I should clear things up and no hard feelings. Of course she denied and started changing the topic.

Since then, she has not spoken to me and avoid eye contact.
I do not plan on talking to her as I use to as I have been very hurt by the comments made.
I now do not know what to do about the invitation. My wedding is in July.

Half a year is a long way away.

The person may not be as social as they make out? there was a colleague who kind of forced my manager and me going out for social drinks last day before Christmas, we suffered having to get up hours earlier on 22nd then we’d normally due to full reliance on public transport - of course they planned they were spending no more then 1.5 hours in our company before they just had to be elsewhere. The drinks out were more a publicity stint with them taking the Michael as per. I mean they are competing for a perm job they will only hold 2 months before they wander of to the career they missed out by 1 point in Nov. Hence I don’t really want to be around for that car crash.

Has she already rsvp'd as yes? If she hasn't then happy days, she's not coming.
If she has accepted & you have since actively fallen out with each other then I'd say it's highly unlikely she'll turn up.

You already sent invitations and rsvp? Just tell her you assume she will now decline, or don't invite her if not too late.