It was bedtime for me when I saw this last night.
I knew some busybody would jump on this comment which was made in good faith, without adding more, in order not to offend the OP as that was not the purpose of the comment (to offend, as you want to make it) but to show how my advice, which many have found correct was constructed.
I am a lawyer and I knew what to look out for, from the op in order to assist. So, when the OP mentioned it, some posts after the op, that helped. If you didn't know, other than the law which is usually clear cut in these cases, the employer's words/expressions/representations/approach etc to the op were extremely relevant to the advice I could give. Likewise, it helped that OP says what she said as it immediately helped me pin point her issues (as I did, in the way that was helpful to her) and not be distracted by the way she was expressing her problems/wishes/needs/fears, which could be misread, if one did not take account of the fact that she may not express the enthusiasm, interest in the same way as someone who was fluent.. In fact, I could have wrongly read her approach, as a bit reckless and uninvested whilst saying it was important to her, until I saw her comment,
Happy?
Don't get me started on 99% of threads on MN by native speakers. Has the age of 5 years really been the compulsory age at which all British kids (in England at least) must start school? Well, MN doesn't reflect that. However, you can ignore those threads if you feel they are not that important (Op is a young mum needing help!) or if others can manage to read the op's drivel. Also, sometimes you can read some of those threads without many issues depending on what advice they ask. See the difference? If not, I cannot help you.