Am I being unreasonable here?
I met my husband 13 years ago doing teacher training. I got a job he decided to do supply because full time teaching is a lot of work. We had our eldest and I was both primary parent and main breadwinner.
Baby 2 came along 3 years later and we moved countries. I had to supply until I got a permanent job. Husband decided to retrain in IT as he was unlikely to ever get a permanent job in the job market here. He took 2 years off work to do this. I was still main parent and now only breadwinner.
Husband finally gets a permanent job now in IT and baby 3 comes along.
He now works from home. So he does drop offs for the kids as I have to commute an hour away for work (big commute for where I live).
Today I was off work with baby who was sick. My husband took an hour's nap in the middle of the day on top of his breaks in work as he had a headache. I was annoyed that he now has left me to do bedtime with all 3 kids alone (does this 3-5 times a week) as he is watching a football match and finishing his work at is dad's house. He says I have no right to say anything as I was "sat on the sofa all day with the baby" baby has been vomiting all day and is breastfed. I said that I have the right to say something about him napping and now taking a painkiller like most people.would when it has a negative impact on family life. Every time I have been at home when he is working I find him napping at some point (and I am off a lot due to being off on school holidays, although I am doing 100% of both housework and child care during holidays).
He is finally getting to the point where id wage will surpass mine and I feel that he is feeling very entitled as a result.
He says I am totally selfish and unsupportive but quite frankly I am fed up of being taken for a mug. I feel like he is using excuses about work to duck out of parental responsibilities.