Hate new job

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I hate my new job. It’s been a month and I’ve had no training and not more than 1 hour with my manager who is always so busy, as are the other team members.

When I try to talk to people, they are too busy and I feel so self conscious as I can tell they just want to carry on with their work.

My new manager is inexperienced and quite nasty to be honest - they have made a number of derogatory comments. They are new in post and got the role only because someone else quit. I’ve been told on one task ‘you’re experienced and accomplished so just ‘own’ it.’ I think they just want me to go away and figure things out. They’ve also snapped at me a few times due to stress.

I am very experienced, not needy, and pretty self sufficient but surely some training and guidance is to be expected rather than leaving me completely to it?

I’ve worked hard to get into this company and I don’t want to quit ideally but I’m starting to have bad feelings. Any advice / thoughts?

That does not sound like a very welcoming workplace!
I don't have a lot of advice, just some thoughts.

Can you try to talk with your manager again? Is it possible to book a proper meeting with them?
(But I understand that it doesn't feel good to talk to person who makes derogatory comments.)

Is there any of your co-workers that seems nice/a bit more open to talk to you? Can you talk to that person?

Perhaps you can set a time limit for yourself? For example
"I will work and do my best until date X, but if it hasn't gotten any better by then, I will start looking for a new job" (or something like that, what suits your situation).

I have a similar issue though I am 4 months in and my colleagues are lovely.

Zero induction, very little training or support.
My manager is also new so she's is just blagging her way through it, she talks the talk and is incredibly lazy,
I've never had such poor management. She is stopping me from doing a lot of my tasks, never responds to emails and every single member of staff is complaining about her.

I have no idea how she got the job.

I've reached the end of my tether and have requested a meeting with her for this coming week.

I doubt she will even reply.

As expected, my manager has not replied.
Neither has she replied to other emails I sent previously re other things.
Pointless escalating to her manager, they are in each others pockets.

She does this with everyone, she is holding up so many other departments but it is allowed to continue.

I've been in this situation before, and I left after 6 weeks.
The situation wasn't helped by a new manager out of his depth and an understaffed, demoralised department. 😒

Following with interest.

Speak to HR and ask for help but honestly, I'd be looking at a new job. No need to stay and affect yourself negatively when you're not the problem. I've changed jobs three times in the last 4 years because I no longer stay where I'm not happy after wasted time in places I hated. Hopefully, the next place will be better but if it isn't, repeat. You're a long time dead. Don't waste your time on cunts.

I agree with @Peacheroo

You can't change culture or individuals. If the dominant atmosphere is one of poor collaboration then good people will mostly leave.

I'm in the same boat. A few months in and having been trying to make it work, but am thinking that it is taking too heavy a toll on my health to stay much longer. My manager runs the dept like a one man show, in that he makes all the decisions that I can't fathom the reasoning behind. But everyone seems to love him, so I'm the odd one out.

I spoke to HR and mentioned I've had no inductions, no 1-2-1s, etc and they just said it was up to me to make those happen. He resents me asking for them, and looks pained throughout.

Last week I'd cleared a decision with him that he then overturned once I'd actioned it - making me feel undermined.

It is absolutely not on you to make that happen. What a joke of a company. Look for another job! You don't need that hassle.

I have to say, my last place I stayed longer than I should have as the place before I'd only been there 15 months odd and worried how two short stints would be on my cv - I also started to think maybe I was the problem but now I've found a great place... probably 😂

Remember your worth.

How's everyone doing? I've just found this thread. I've realised my new role is not for me. if I stay - my mental health will fall apart.

the only thing keeping me there is my CV. it'll look a mess with just 6 months of this role

My previous role was 6 months too (Temp role)

I feel like I have to stay as ill be unemployable with such a messy CV!

Not at all. At interview, when asked why are you looking to leave, you are honest that the working environment isn't ideal and rather than sit and suffer, you prefer to be proactive and move on. I've never any issues with this approach

Thank you Treacle - I could leave tomorrow if I wanted to.

Tempting..... But there's no jobs out there to apply for at the moment and it feels risky!

@redfoxredfox really feel for you. I'm going to assume they're not paying you more than the average employer or supplying you with some flexibility that couldn't easily be gotten elsewhere? If not, why let yourself suffer.

So one temp role and one that you don't feel is a good fit. Why hide that? 100% agree with @Treacletoots honesty is the best policy. I used to work with a guy who said his last 5 or so positions were short term contracts but he was found out.

thank you @Peacheroo - I'm on the lookout. this job isn't what was advertised at all. if they were honest in the job ad - I wouldn't have applied 😔

the salary has now been matched by the new NMW increase - so effectively can go anywhere / do anything at no loss!

(standard salary for the area!)

Any news on your situation OP? I would get out…. I’m 1.5 years into a work situation that isn’t a good fit. On paper it’s great- flexible, works around children etc but I’ve hoenslty never felt so left and like soemthing just doesn’t suit. I have raised it with managers who simply said “o I knew soemthinf was up” after the whole time not listening and another who told me they didn’t sleep in their first year of doing this job .I really wish I’d gone with my gut at the beginning and got out…. I’ve lost sleep, confidence, and here I am on a Saturday night thinking about it which says it all. Good luck OP x

And I actually really like my colleagues but the more I get to know them the more I realise they have absolutely no confidence and are facing the same issues as me but yet no one really talks openly about it …