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Anyone else feel this way about work?

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emmajjj · 14/11/2023 07:40

Since having a baby I can't stand people I work with and the work environment. The job it's self is brilliant but everything else just drains me. I sit in my car at lunch and try really hard to keep my personal life private. I am not a manager, I am professional and very good at my job.

What happened to going in, keeping your head down and doing your job? Theses days your a rubbish employee if you don't engage in drama and office politics. It seems like your employer expects you to gossip, cause trouble and kids ass all day.
Also, why are there meetings about meetings? I sit on Teams meetings cringing at the kiss ass that is going on. The meetings go on for hours talking about pointless stuff that solve nothing.

The other day a girl got upset and told my manger I was too busy to talk to her!!!!! He actually approached about it like it was some really bad situation. She wanted to gossip but I just carried on with my job.
I have noticed that if you cry and tell on people you get everything but if you're not emotional, get on with it then your the problem. We are even having meetings on treating people with respect! I don't see why because it's not that bad in my workplace, just the usual gossip.
My company lose a lot of money due to complaints and never invest in new equipment. This implies to me that we need to focus more on getting the job done instead of having pointless meetings and drama.
Why is it like this now? Why can't we all just go to work, make them money and come home. Why has work become people's whole life?

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emmajjj · 14/11/2023 07:42

*kiss

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SaturdayGiraffe · 14/11/2023 07:44

It’s new job time. Toxic cultures don’t change.

Ilovegoldies · 14/11/2023 07:46

No I don't feel like that. I like my colleagues. You can maintain a professional boundary and still like your colleagues. Maybe it's you? Or the people you work with. It's a shame you feel like this as a lot of waking hours are spent at work.

emmajjj · 14/11/2023 07:46

SaturdayGiraffe · 14/11/2023 07:44

It’s new job time. Toxic cultures don’t change.

Is it like this every where?

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emmajjj · 14/11/2023 07:49

Ilovegoldies · 14/11/2023 07:46

No I don't feel like that. I like my colleagues. You can maintain a professional boundary and still like your colleagues. Maybe it's you? Or the people you work with. It's a shame you feel like this as a lot of waking hours are spent at work.

How can it be me if I don't get involved. That's my point. I'm quiet and polite! I don't need to change to make people feel better about themselves.

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SantaBarbaraMonica · 14/11/2023 07:50

emmajjj · 14/11/2023 07:46

Is it like this every where?

No. I love my office environment. People joke around a bit but are kind and respectful. Nobody likes wasting time or doing useless meetings so we all work on cutting unnecessary ones out.

WandaWonder · 14/11/2023 07:52

Most of the time I don't feel like this but I have had days where I manage to get about 30mins actual work done because it's constant people wanting to chat, sometimes I actually need to concentrate

SaturdayGiraffe · 14/11/2023 07:52

No. In my experience it is entirely due to management. You would probably benefit from moving to a more established professional environment.

Yerroblemom1923 · 14/11/2023 07:54

I think after you have kids your priorities change. I used to love my job but when I returned from my mat leave I felt totally different about it. I stuck it out part time for a bit but if it's not fun any more and getting you down it's time to get out. Life's too short to do a job you don't enjoy.

RosesAndHellebores · 14/11/2023 07:58

If you are having meetings about how to treat people with respect, I suspect there's a formal grievance in the background. Something went down while you were away I imagine.

It only takes one to turn a team and create emotional/interpersonal chaos.

My work mates think they know about me from chit chat. They know I've a mum and step, two grown-up DC, a DH and the town I live in. They know no ins and outs and never will.

Dearlyglad · 14/11/2023 08:10

I think everyone is expected to get on with each other just for appearances. Even though they back stab one another and are two faced. Men are just as bad as women.

emmajjj · 14/11/2023 08:40

WandaWonder · 14/11/2023 07:52

Most of the time I don't feel like this but I have had days where I manage to get about 30mins actual work done because it's constant people wanting to chat, sometimes I actually need to concentrate

Yes! My job is very skilled and if I don't concentrate then I could make a mistake that could impact on the wrong result being sent to a hospital.

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emmajjj · 14/11/2023 08:40

Yerroblemom1923 · 14/11/2023 07:54

I think after you have kids your priorities change. I used to love my job but when I returned from my mat leave I felt totally different about it. I stuck it out part time for a bit but if it's not fun any more and getting you down it's time to get out. Life's too short to do a job you don't enjoy.

Very true

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emmajjj · 14/11/2023 08:42

Dearlyglad · 14/11/2023 08:10

I think everyone is expected to get on with each other just for appearances. Even though they back stab one another and are two faced. Men are just as bad as women.

Soooooo true.

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Mumtime2 · 14/11/2023 09:00

Sound like the workplace is thriving on bs daily.
Look elsewhere or find a more positive work environment where professional is exactly that.
You spend a lot of time at work, dreading the place is not ok for to long.
Go for a walk or chat to friends to perk yourself up.
Different strokes for different folks...leave them to it.

kimmyo · 14/11/2023 09:09

Mumtime2 · 14/11/2023 09:00

Sound like the workplace is thriving on bs daily.
Look elsewhere or find a more positive work environment where professional is exactly that.
You spend a lot of time at work, dreading the place is not ok for to long.
Go for a walk or chat to friends to perk yourself up.
Different strokes for different folks...leave them to it.

Love this ❤️ thank you

RudsyFarmer · 14/11/2023 09:11

You need to find something to claim victimhood over and then the managers will leave you alone.

Zazango · 14/11/2023 11:37

With all due respect, this sounds like a terrible, terrible place to work. You need to leave, in my opinion.

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